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Maya 
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Posted: 24 December 2007 at 3:01pm |
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I am getting more and more anxious as the anniversary of my m/c comes up. It will be 2 years on 2 jan since I had the d and c, but I started miscarrying on New Years Eve morning in the bathroom at mum and dads place. Now here I am back at Mum and Dads and pregnant and New Years Eve is fast coming up and I can't even go into the bathroom downstairs where it happened (which I know is stupid coz I have to go up two flights of stairs in the night just to go to the toilet!) and am having awful flashbacks of the exact moment I knew our baby was gone. Plus I have to have my NT scan here some time next week and it looks like I will have to have it at the same place where I had the u/s and found out our baby had died.
So in the middle of all the Xmas chaos I have all this playing on my mind and I just had to get it out there. Last year wasn't so bad as we were in NZ and the gremlins were tiny so I was focussed on them, but this year I have faaaar too much time to think.
Ugh, I think I'm mad!
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Posted: 24 December 2007 at 3:06pm |
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I don't think you're mad, it's all a bit deja-vu and no wonder you're having flashbacks. I still tend to find things trigger off memories of little bits around that time especially also coming up to xmas and seeing my nephew and all the pics of the gorgeous nov 07 bubs and just wondering what if.
Hang in there Emma, go have your scan, see that beautiful iggle piggle and remember the good. I think you need to find something to do on that day day to make new good memories to replace the old ones.
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Posted: 24 December 2007 at 3:27pm |
Big Hugs  Emma. I remember going through the same feelings when pregnant with Sam and not wanting to jinx it! My first scan (at the same place that told me I had lost the last one) was so nerve racking but of course everything was just fine! Just let me remind you that Iggle Piggle is not the baby you lost and is doing really well in there.
Chill out, put your feet up and enjoy Xmas :) I am looking forward to sharing my b-day with your Iggle Piggle 
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Posted: 24 December 2007 at 4:56pm |
I have no advice to offer but can only give big hugs!
I can totally understand why you would be jittery! Hopefully though the next scan will go beautifully and you can relax and enjoy little iggle piggle! 
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Posted: 24 December 2007 at 5:55pm |
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Big huge hugs from me too Emma!
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Posted: 24 December 2007 at 8:53pm |
BIG BIG HUGS EMMA
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Posted: 24 December 2007 at 9:06pm |
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Aww hun you have every right to feel the way you do, it is a bit Deja Vu isnt it ;-(
Like one of the others said though, try and find new memories, never know maybe new years will be the day your iggle piggle gives you a kick you can feel!!
Big hugs.
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Posted: 24 December 2007 at 9:21pm |
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Posted: 25 December 2007 at 5:41pm |
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I know how you feel...i was so sad i went to a totally different place cause I was scare I would jinx it..lol.. go along and see your little one and make some wonderful new memories with that beautiful baby!
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Posted: 26 December 2007 at 11:38pm |
Heck Emma, as if you don't have enough going on for you, I hope things get eaiser for you and you soon have more wonderful memories to hold onto.
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Posted: 27 December 2007 at 7:42am |
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ive just had the anniversary of when i lost the twins aswell. Funny but the same day I was cleaning out some drawers and found all the paperwork from the hospital, was horrible. Will be thinking of you this new years and hope you can have a little fun.
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Posted: 28 December 2007 at 8:21am |
You're not mad at all.
I don't know how you cope with so much going on! You're a trooper!! 
I had to drive past the radiology place where I found out I'd miscarried every day for 2 and a half years before getting pregnant again. Living in Tauranga it's really the only place to have u/s's done, so I went back there (VERY nervously) to have my 12 week scan with this one and I was on the verge of throwing up every time I opened my mouth. Even DH was beside himself with nerves. We were lead into the SAME room with the SAME radiographer and I had told myself that was it.
But of course, it was all fine. And you will be too! Iggle Piggle's already a fighter and has three beautiful big sisters ready to play 
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Posted: 29 December 2007 at 9:54pm |
HUGS Maya I know how you feel Im feeling aprehensive too and Charly its the same place and same radiographer for me too since I live in a small town, my bubs now is due 30th July and mc bubs was due 30th Jan so its kinda freaky that its 6 months exactly apart so strange that dates co-inside
big big hugs xoxooxoxoxoxxo
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Posted: 29 December 2007 at 10:15pm |
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How's it going Emma? hope you are feeling a bit calmer - knowing you, probbaly not, so hoping the gremlins are taking your mind off things a wee bit.
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Posted: 30 December 2007 at 11:54pm |
I'm hanging in here. Less thank 12 hours to go  Just listened to bub on the doppler which was reassuring, but feeling a bit anxious. If I wasn't pregnant I'd probably take a sedative! Trying to focus on just getting thru till the morning, then getting thru tomorrow, then have my NT scan on Thurs.
Thanks for thinking of me!
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
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Posted: 31 December 2007 at 11:42am |
Thinking of you
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Posted: 31 December 2007 at 12:13pm |
Hey Emma, I am in the kind of same boat right now ( if not floating on similar seas...!), bubba would have been due January 1st and for some reason I keep stressing that this bubba is going to be born then which is madness but I can not get it out of my head at all as it would be too early for bubs and well its not really going to happen
I guess our heads try to deal with things for us and mine is dealing with the uncoming date by freaking out about this baby, wish it would stop its all I can think about so I know its a stressfull time for you, hang in there and enjoy your scan ( so jealous ,wish I could have another one!! i'm well addicted to them!) 
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:05am |
Im feeling a bit sad as Feb gets closer, our baby would have been due on the 20th Feb. But then I feel this little one kick me and know that the baby we lost is watching over us and this little baby has a guardian angel in its little brother or sister that we lost
Big Hugs hun **hugs**
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