How Fasts To Fast??

well on the 13th feb i met dis guy(justin).i fell in love with him.the next day we started dating..(on valetines day.We fell in love at first sight on the saturday we said the L word 2 each other.our familys get along great and justins in love with my little boy.

so everythings going great.next year we are planning on gettin married.we really love each other.its great.on friday we were told we got 6 weeks to move out as the landlords need the house for a family member.mine and justins family r moving in together or justins moving in with my family.i just want 2 no what everyone thinks

im only 15 and hes 22. is my relationship moving to fast???

Edited by Tami

Yep, I second with Nikki. No need to rush down the asile, remember, you are still young!

Also, don't forget, the most important person in this equation at this stage is Khayle, he needs stability.

It's great you have the love and support of your family. Good luck, Tami.

Ok well since the other ladies were a bit braver than me and went first, I am going to say that I have to agree that it is *very* fast for you to be planning on marrying him already. I think this was already pointed out, but you also need to be 16 to be legally married in NZ - and in a way that is probably a good space of time for you to think a little more about all of this. I don't mean to come across as harsh and probably sound like an old nana, but living together for a while first is what I'd suggest, and if you're still head over heels in love with him after a year and he is still willing to support both you and your bubs, *then* start thinking about marriage. I also realise that this may be a bit hypocritical of me, so I will be honest - Roland and I have only been together for just over a year, but we thought long and hard about whether we really wanted this, and whether we'd be able to survive everything that is ahead of us - luckily the answer was a resounding 'YES !!'. Again I'm not trying to sound nasty and critical (sorry about all the disclaimers, I always worry about offending people... ), but we also both have good jobs and can afford a mortgage on our own, as well as all of our other living expenses - *plus* we are hopefully going to be able to have me at home for a whole year after bubs is born, which is going to be hard, but is what we would be happier doing. I'm not saying you're a bad mum, because I'm sure you're not, and I'm not saying your new guy is a bad apple either - it also sounds like you have supportive family and that is the most important thing, having those support systems in place.

Anyway, my apologies for rambling ! In a nutshell, please please please take more time to think about this and simply enjoy spending time with your man - again I risk sounding so old fashioned, but marriage is such a HUGE step ! I was engaged once before when I was 19, and I sure wasn't ready - I realise some people do get married young and it works out for them, but still requires *alot* of thought.

Best of luck to you both though

My husband and I knew each other for over two years before we started dating.   We moved in tyogether after three weeks of dating and while everything worked out, I kinda missed the mystery and surprise. I would suggest not moving in together, but continue dating. It's a shame to rush things and then regret that you missed out on getting to know each other. And that rushy feeling you get when they call. You know that he calls and comes over because he loves you and wants to, rather than coming over because he lives there and kinda has no choice. Then you can also look forward to him coming over and making an effort, shaving legs and stuff, before you get stuck in the domestic doldrums over argueing whose turn it is to do the dishes.
If you are meant to be togther, it will work out. Don't rush things cause you miss out on all the cool stuff!

I have to agree with everyone else. I'm kind of in the same boat as Lizzle, I had known Willie for a little while thru friends, we got together and I moved in the next day. So we missed all the fund stuff that Lizzle mentioned - the dates, and the phone calls etc. We went straight into the whole domestic thing.
It's worked out OK for us in the long run, but we have had a long, hard road to get to where we are now. I think you just nedd to focus on Khayle atm, and let your relationship with Justin develop naturally and see where it goes.
I remember being so in love with my BF at 16 that I couldn't picture not being with him, now I wonder what I saw in him

I'm sorry to say, but I agree..... too young, and waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to fast. Jono and I had 7 months of the most amazing dating and getting to know each other before moving in together, and I wouldn't change that for anything. It gave us a wonderful foundation to build our relationship on. And like Emma, I remember at 15 thinking my boyfriend at the time was the one I was going to be with forever.... thank god I got over that one!! Take care of yourself, and if this guy is worth keeping he will be happy to take things a little more slowly.

Hi Tami. Nice to meet you.

I have to agree with the others. Way to fast. But also, I can relate to you.... I was a young mum too. :)

WAIT darling WAIT. Great things take time!!

Don't even be thinking about marriage just yet. You've known "of" him for 2 weeks. You don't "know" him yet...

More importantly, you need to give your child the opportunity to get to know him too and see how they are together. Your child should be your main priority, moving in together now may not be the best move for baby as you want to make sure its a long term thing and not to confuse bubs.

Take your time. Your young... no hurry. :o)

Just one more point that others have brought up that I want to reinforce - about being your age and thinking the guy you're with is 'the one' and being absolutely head over heels, boy am *I* ever glad I got over that too !! Esp. since guys in his age bracket tend to still be very much on the immature side (sorry if I'm lumping anyone else's partner in this bracket, I'm not saying all guys in their early 20s are bad!). Time is *very* much the key here.

Totally agree with you Ana - in fact I pm'ed a similar message to Tami yesterday.

ohhhhh wooooooo i no u feel like hes theone butt noone no whats around the coner please wait u r still young and if its not to rude your boy needs u and even if u think hes the one take the time to get to no him if he is the one he will wait for u good luck