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    Posted: 24 February 2008 at 4:56pm
I'm wondering if Cooper is going thru a bit of Separation Anxiety.

Since Sunday he has woken 3 - 4 times a night and cries when I put him back down. To make matters worse he isn't going down for his day sleeps either, as soon as I get him horizontal to put him in his cot he starts screaming! As soon as I pick him up he stops and is like a different little boy. Last night I was up from 2.00 till 4.30 with him screaming the entire time, I ended up taking him to bed with me.

At first I thought it was due to starting solids, being bunged up etc, but he has passed a motion, (that was alot but very soft). We went to the doc's on Tuesday and got the all clear for ears and teeth etc.

In bed he has a teddy and a blankie which he manages to snuggle up to both. He's in a go go bag (which at the moment I bring it out he starts crying!!) I have nursery rhymes playing during the day too.

I need some more suggestions, or even just some positive vibes!! I'm really at my wits end and had a big cry before at the thought of tonight DH has taken him for a walk now so fingers crossed he is sleeping! I should be having a nap too!
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perhaps he has teeth moving around below the level of the gum sparkle, sort of like adult wisdom teeth do can move around for months before they show????

hope all works out soon for you

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I have thought of that too, so more often than not he's been going to bed dosed up on bongella and pamol!! ANd every now and then some gripe water thrown in for his belly!!!

(Not quite a cocktail as it may sound though! )
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Hey Sparkle - it can really be devastating. My baby is the same age and I think that they are just beginning to get a real sense of when you are away from them. My baby will search the room with his eyes until he finds me (day or night). We too are struggling a bit with day sleeps.

It sounds like he is experiencing his separation anxiety around sleep. I would try bringing him into your bed at night when he starts crying and cuddling with him, that may be better than pacing the floor I would think. Maybe he just needs to know that you are still there - I do think when they can't see us they don't necessarily know that we are still there. During the day you could try rocking or singing to him in his go go bag to get him a little sleepy before he goes down and then maybe patting him until he is alseep or even feed to sleep if you need to.

Don't be scared of helping him get to sleep - I sometimes think we are encouraged to foster sleep independence too soon in our babies.

Good Luck!
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I used to be a good patter, but now he pushes my hands away when I try

I must admit that I was amazed when I took him into bed with us that he fell asleep almost straight away so might have to do that again.

Tonight he's had feed, bath, stories with daddy and mummy and gone straight down without any protest. Fingers crossed it stays that way!!!
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Tom did this for about 6 weeks just after Xmas It was horrible, I was so sleep deprived and beside myself. He would sleep for about 30 min all day and then not go down.

It is better! Totally different now, he goes down for his day sleeps with minimal fuss and I just go with the flow, if he wakes after a short time and seems happy I dont mind getting him back up and putting him down later. We NEVER could do this before. He now sleeps through the night. (touchwod). and is a really happy chappy.

So what did I do? No bloody clue. About the time it changed I started adding formula feeds. I alternate boob and bottle. After a breif period I posted about when he was fussing onboobie he has decided that its cool to have boob OR bottle and feeds really well at both. I was worrying that he wasnt getting enough food and giving him a bottle meant I knew how much was going in.

I also went to 3 solids a day.

Now I have no idea whether it was a coincidence or these things helped? It could evenbe establishing a routineof sorts for the first time inhis life...who knows.

If it hadnt got better I was going to go to family centre so maybe that is somethingto try.

Chin up....It DOES come right. All the babies in my antenatal did the same thing!
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Try putting the vacuum cleaner on when he goes down for a sleep....works for us. oh and I swear by the dummy! (even though he throws it across the room)
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Yeah, so does Bella, but for those initial few minutes before she falls asleep, its a God send!


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Also weleda teething powder for teeth - really mad e a huge difference for LIly.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote cheekymonkeysmum Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 29 February 2008 at 1:07am
My DD Hayley does that with her daddy. If he is looking after her (while i'm at work or sport) she will not go down in her cot..she has to sleep on the couch near him. I also have the problem of her being Mummy clingy and gets upset if I'm not around (heartbreaking for hubby and others).
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Oh good luck! I didn't realise that once you got sleeping sorted, that they might revert back to all the crying etc. I hope it doesn't happen to us, but good to know it is normal if it does!
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