Im so angry!!

OMG I can definitely understand your anger and frustration ...when I decided to go through with my pregnancy (as a young solo mother) I feel I gave up all rights to 'have a life of my own ie drinking, pubbing and clubbing' and that I was in it for the long haul. It's not just about me anymore, Lucas is #1 priority ...even when/if I do study, he will still be most important, but to give him a better life I will have to learn to balance & prioritise work/study and home life ...

I've stuck to my guns so far, but I do often see young (sometimes solo) mothers dropping like flies around me, they can't handle the responsibility and feel that they can justify 'failure' by placing the blame on their little ones. Not cool.

Hmm not sure who you were asking that question to lol ...I'd like to study communications with a major in public relations and/or professional writing. Will be later on down the track though.

I'm selfish & am enjoying lucas far too much at the moment to sacrifice any of our quality time to go and study just yet ...maybe later in the year.

Correct me if I'm wrong but you wanted to study midwifery didn't you Pippa?

hehe sorry Steph we posted at the same time (well you did before me but i didnt see it till i posted)

Yea I reckon you would be awsome at that - you have really good grammer (if that even makes sence lol)

Hopefuly if everything goes to plan then yea i will study midwifery :) im all excited about it

yeah caitlyn's my life too, you kind of figure when you decide to have the baby that your life is now going to be shared with someone else for as long as you live....not , when they're little and cute and then once they start having a mind of their own , adopt them out.
I remember they changed her name, it was originally Shiloh or something , but the adoptive parents changed it to Charlotte, im not sure why-could the poor child have any more changes in her life?

I can't understand people that would send their child (especially so young) to a different country. But, imho, if "She f**ks around and does other sh*t when she should be studying but its apparently (your) nieces fault" then maybe your niece is better off with her thai family.

You've said a child needs her parents but I actually disagree. A child does need to be loved and feel secure, in an ideal world this would come from her parents but this is not an ideal world.

My niece and nephew's fathers walked out on them (Miss E's dad didn't stick around when my sis found out she was preg then she broke up with Mr J's dad when he was only 3mo and Miss E was 22mo). My sis had an accident when she was preg with Miss E and the injury worsened when preg with Mr J. She had a fractured pubic bone and had to go through two ops over a couple of years (a bone graft which didn't work then a vascular bone graft). She was drugged to the max and constantly using her tens machine but still in pain and she couldn't look after her children. So my parents looked after them 3 nights per week (wed - thurs), my husband and I had them at our house from Friday afterwork - Sunday afternoon then I would go and stay at their house on Sunday night and Monday night to look after them. We got nannies to look after them during the day while we were at work. The children are now 6 and almost 8 and they are lovely, well mannered, secure kids.

If you niece is going to get the love and security she needs from her thai family then that's great. It would be worse if she stayed with her mum and grew up being told (or having it implied) that she ruined her mums life and prevented her mum from doing what she wants.

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Me again. They do say distance makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe a little distance is what your SIL needs to get her priorities in order and make her realise how precious her little girl is.

I'm sorry, but if you have sex, get pregnant and have a baby then you deal with it (whether you keep it or adopt etc) - you've got noone to 'blame' for the situation in most cases. I think she's incredibly selfish. But then again, if she's not actually going to be a mother to this child, it might be better off in a different situation.

Mrsmojo - What a loving and supportive family. That must have been so hard for your sister not physically being able to look after her kids. I couldn't handle my 4 week rehab after my op as it was eating me up so I can understand how hard it must have been for her!

I hear where you guys are coming from. Im not saying shes a bad mother either, she loves her SOmuch. but how could she just send away her child because things are getting a bit tough? Yeah, she failed some tests, then try harder. Its not my neices fault that she didnt try hard enough.
I agree that children need a secure and stable home. But im sorry but i believe (unless the parents abuse their children) that they belong with them. Do i make sense?

I think the fact that she is my neice and im very attached to her, makes it harder for me to accept it as well.

Also she isnt a solo mum. She and my brother arent together but he is always around for my neice. I think my brother should have my neice but at the moment hes not in the right place to have a child. He just finished Uni and hasnt got a job yet. He also is living in a hostel. So you know, he should get his A into G. But then he told me he thinks its best for her to go there to so i dont know.

to answer pippa if you were talking to me, im going to study animal care at polytech, gonna do level 2 and 3 then im off to england once ive finished the courses.
By then i dont know if briahnas dad will have even met her yet lol.


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