8 days late and going mad

morning guys just found this site can anyone help me. my husband and i have been ttc 4 16mths now. i am 8 days late usually on time......... test coming bac neg and i feel like im gona go mad waiting.wuld a blood test show up earlier?   

Yep a Blood test would show Good Luck

Don't feel too bad - I don't get a postive result on a home test until I'm at least 13 days late! A blood test should give you a definite answer if you don't want to wait any longer.

Good luck honeybee ...you must be going around the twist! It'd drive me batty being almost 2 weeks over and getting negative tests I think a trip to the doctors would be a good idea, just so you can know either way - it would put your mind at rest, and if you are pregnant, it would stop you worrying early in the pregnancy, and the relief of stress would be good for baby to settle in. In my humble child-less opinion. Actually, I wouldn't have a clue, but it has to be better if you can put your mind at rest!

I'm very sorry about your M/Cs - I hope that your next pregnancy is trouble free.

You said it, Simmone! It's me who doesn't get a postive result until close to two weeks Drove me nuts! I was so sure I was pregnant (with Josiah), did tests 3 days in a row... wasn't until the third one (13 days late) that I got a positive result! This time round, I did a test 14 days late, but didn't get a positive result... I did another one a month later, and then got the postive!

Actually, I should probably add some detail here re my above post. I was under a phenominal amount of stress at the end of the year, and that really only eased off about a month or so ago. Work stress was dreadful leading into the end of the year, and I was physically exhausted, and emotionally stretched, and basically went 'splat' at the end of the year, and (I don't want to admit to this, but I will) I ended up on anti-depressants to try and get my feet back under me. Very very low dose I have to say, just enough to give me a hand with my scattered mind.

Anyway ...in that context, I guess it's not surprising that we haven't conceived, is it really? Maybe I should give it an extra 6 months before panicking. Last year, when we started trying, was an extremely hard year, and I'm taking much more time this year to take care of me, and so is hubby - taking care of me that is!

Right. That's my secret out.    

You're so not alone Simonne! I have clinical depression, was diagnosed at 18 and it was a lightbulb moment - finally I understood why I had been feeling so bad for so long! Have been on and off the antidepressants ever since.

I am (very tentatively) off my antidepressants until I hit 12 weeks with this baby, my midwife said then we'll play a wait and see game, if I cope without them I will stay off them as is better for bubs. I was fine when I was preg with Maya, and when she was born didn't get PND even tho I was at very high risk of it with my history which was good.

Anyways, back to your original question - the first thing your doc will do is order some blood tests to see how your hormone levels are. They usually check your Follicle Stimulating Hormone and Luteinising Hormone levels around CD2-4 and then do a progesterone level 7 days before you expect your next AF/7 days after ovulation in a normal cycle. That will tell them if you are ovulating, and if you have a good supply of healthy eggs.

If all that is normal, you might be referred for an u/s to check that you don't have any structural probs or obvious blockages/endometriosis.

If still nothing, they might start talking more invasive stuff like a hysterosalpinogram (HSG) which is a tubal flush, or Laperoscopic (sp) surgery to see what is going on, but those are both pretty dramatic things - most people's probs can be sorted at the hormonal level.

To add to what has already been said...you doc will prolly also get your hubby to provide a sample so the lab can make sure his swimmers are there, active, normal and have a sense of direction!

Good luck!

Maybe the holiday post was after this (too lazy to check dates) but I think that's a great idea... worry about doctors etc after you've had some time to relax!

LOL Paws, I forgot about the man side of things. I guess coz that was never an issue for us - Willie has 5 kids already, plus baby...