Totally morbid question...

Hi
I am 17 weeks and I was just wondering how confident I should be that things will continue safely with my pregnancy....without trying to sound morbid I have been holding back on my excitement until now, I mean i have been excited but at the same time I realise I have been a bit reserved cos I just dont want to get attached just incase, by some small chance, something happens. I have not even bought a single thing up until today when i bought a little t-shirt....I guess I just dont want to jinx it. Am I being overly paranoid (probably!) - but I was wonering if I can start to get excoted now, I dont want to be detatched like this for much longer, I want to get excited, but at the same time I am scared to....
sorry for sounding liek a sad sack, usually I am a very optemistic person, but this pregnancy has really made me paranoid!!!!...help!!!

oh hunny i felt the same way as u even though i had never had a misscarrige ,still briths do run in my familiy congrats on the t-shirt its one step forward
big hugs

the thing is from now for the rest of your life you are going to have to worry about this child and thats just part of being a mum. First you worry you cant get pregnant then you worry you might miscarry then its what if something goes wrong with the birth and when they finally are in your arms there are a whole lot of other things to worry about. I didnt let myself get attached to Kobe or this pregnancy for a long time, this one especially but I think you get to a point where you have to relax and start enjoying it. The chances of anything going wrong are pretty small really and there is nothing you can do about it now so start bonding with your baby!

pepsi- i check each the toilet paper each time too, right to the end!!!!!
and yes like everyone says its totally normal to worry like that during pregnancy.

this is my worst worrying pregancy too, i was sure i would miscarry or something would go wrong. its proberly because i had heard sooo many horror stories over the last year myself. my bro-in-law's cousin had her 20 week scan to find out there was something really wrong with her baby, and she couldnt continue the pregnancy as her baby wouldnt live and it was toxic for her (long story) and then shortly after another girl had a miscarrage, a friend or mine lost her baby at 4 1/2 months (no heartbeat) and i felt like maybe it would happen to me.

worry is a good sign, it shows that we care!!!!!

im real happy that you went and brought the tee-shirt congrats!!

just take care, and try to relax (just a little!!!) and enjoy your pregnancy.

we are all here for you and each other on "oh baby"
you arent alone

Thanks guys, really good to know I am not alone in feeling this way....I can tell from what you all have said you felt/feel exactly like i do...it's scarey, but I will just take it one day at a time and try and get over this fear of bonding, cos I really want to get excoted...THANKS!!!

i am heaps more paranoid this time than i was with ella. i think when i was pregnant with her i was much more ignorant about it all. i still worry all the time and wait to feel him moving just to be sure he's still ok in there! i'm looking foward to moving up to the fortnightly then weekly visits from my midwife, then i can be reassured more often

wow it's so re-assuring to know that you're not the only one having these feelings. i'm also guilty of checking the toilet paper everytime, which i never did with jack....whats up with that!??