My Pregnant body...

maybe you need to wait a few months till you have a lovely preggy belly - it may put things into perspective some more for you. I loved gaining weight during pregnancy, but loathed how i looked after xanthe was born. even knowing that i was breastfeeding and doing a good thing for her wasnt enough - i felt like crap! this will pass, and you have us here to vent to until it does. how bout you post up a belly pic for us all to coo over?

I feel like this too and everyone keeps saying I should enjoy being pregnant especially since we dont plan on having anymore kids but I just feel huge and miserable really. Sorry no advice but you are not alone!

I'm in the frumpy and yuck stage too. The babies are definitely growing - I went to put my leg up on the basin to dry myself after my shower and my belly got in the way - but I just have a flabby tummy not a baby belly. So I just look fat(ter than usual).

I was already a little overweight before I got pregnant and thought I would hate getting bigger, but so far it feels like I'm allowed to be so it's pretty good.

The depression will probably set in once the baby has been born and I realise I'm still just a fatty hehe

dont stress! those feelings are normal, well i feel them at times too, i definatly have more times where i dont like being pregnant than do!!!!! at the moment im feeling pretty good though.
and only a few weeks ago i was feeling exactly the same.... fat!!!! but now i am seeing more and more of a beautiful preggy belly bump! so im sure that you will start to feel a bit happier within yourself soon.
if not, know that you arent alona and its ok to not like what happens to our bodies.

take care!!!!!

oh i so know where you are coming from mrs frantic! with jack, i was so happy to be preggers and from 24-25wks my belly was a nice round shape so i loved being able to wear tops to show it off. i have a bit of a pot belly anway, so it was the first time i didn't have to worry about my tops being too tight.
this time, my tummy just looks fat and it's definately bigger but not preggy looking i'm always feeling bloated and disgusting and so far, not enjoying being pregnant at all!
but in saying that, those feelings all go away when you feel bubs moving inside you and hearing their wee heart pumping
i'm sure once your a little bit further along and your belly gets rounder, you'll feel alot better about yourself. it's that in-between stage that we are going through that can be quite hard on the emotions.
take care sweets, we are all here when you need a place to let it all out

your allowed to feel like ur bodies playing host as u said cos in a way u are....
I always wanted a big bump and didnt really get one so i never went thru the frumpy stage,but im sure it must suck!
Is there anything u can do to pamper urself?get some nice styly preggy outfits maybe?or get ur nails done or something?
Remember each week that goes by with u feeling hideous is one less week of pregnancy

can i tell you a secret? the only difference between you and those "happy healthy glowing" pregnant ladies is that they don't show how much trouble they are having adjusting to their body changes!

Every woman has something they don't like about themselves and it's hard to feel good about being preg with all these movie stars looking absolutely wonderfully fabulous while preggy but truth is, everyone has to confront their own troubles with their bodies and pregnancy is pretty sucky in terms of that - makes you feel like you are back in 3rd form.. some can't wait to develop, others just wanna stay the way they are, and it's all out of your control.
Once you get a bit further along you'll start to coneect with baby and have the scan etc and it will all become real - you'll still feel like your body has been taken over by an alien (and once baby starts really botting around, it will actually look like it sometimes if you watch your tummy!) but it will feel good too. WE all go thru it - we all end up getting irrational towards our partners, get angry at thin un-preggy ladies and just end up feeling frumpy. but you have to remember that you are also at an in-between stage too, not quite at the big and showing part yet, you will get there all too soon. hang in there.

I'm with the 'go pamper yourself a bit' theory too... go on, you deserve to do something spesh just for you.

A week behind your pregnancy, I now look either pregnant or fat, depending on what I wear, and clothes-less, I don't like what I see. I'm still dismayed at how much of the 'bump' I can suck up if I hold my tummy in (so I'm guessing it's flubber poking out as much as baby!!) and think I'll feel happier about it in a few weeks... then miserable towards the end! Anyway, I rekon STUFF THE THEORIES ON HOW YOU "SHOULD" FEEL AND ACT!! Who cares? You feel how you feel right now.

Motherhood seems so cloaked in 'shoulds' and 'shouldn'ts', with all these ideas around about how wrong it is to talk about the negative side of bringing a baby into this world. Well stuff 'em! Yes, there'll be immesurable joy, but there'll also be heartache, so screw those expectations of how serene, centered and at one with the universe or whatever c**p we're meant to be projecting to the world at every given moment! If you're into books, Shiela Kitzinger's book on pregnancy and childbirth has some awesome advice and reality checks in it - it's been like my bible! It's pricey, but I saw an old copy on Trade Me today.

andie..mrs frantic..i can suck my baby belly in too! yay, i thought it was just me
when i suck my tummy in, i hardly look preggy at all...i should post some pics to show what i mean. i still havn't felt bubs move properly yet either so i was beginning to think i'm not actually pregnant!
got my scan tomorrow so will find out if i am or not hahahaha