Visiting Grandparents

Our in-laws and other relatives are all under strict instructions to wait for our phone call, and we will set the time and length of their visit - and they have not taken offense to this.

My MIL lives overseas though, so it's not easy for her to come and visit - we think she might be able to come for a holiday sometime before the end of the year.

What is most important is that you (and daddy) get that time to bond with your baby, there will be no second chances ! In other words, be firm and stand up for what you want.

OK i'll give a different point. Both our parents live in Palmerston North. Both knew I was being induced as I had been in hospital for a week. FIL and MIL both worked at the hospital as well which was hard as they were forever coming a visiting me while I was pregnant. We told both sets of parents that we would call once Andrew was born. My parents said that if they hadn't heard anything by nighttime they may ring just to see whats happening. That was ok as at the time my parents were my NOK so they could ring at anytime and find out any info about me. However at 9pm FIL had, had enough of waiting for the phone call and turned up at the hospital and walked into the delivery suite asking to see me. He could get in as he had a swip card to get in there - the doors are normally locked. He wanted to come into my room, while I was in full labour to see why we hadn't called. We did say we would call when Andrew was here. He did not understand that I was in labour and still wanted to come in to the room. I called out all sorts of words (very explisist) to him to go away. At the same time my dad rings, so the hospital midwife filled him in (as NOK) as to what was happening. When I finally had Andrew we rang. I had him at 1am on the dot and I rang my mum and dad at 1.02am with Andrew on me, then DH rang his parents straight after. The next day we had both families in to see us at 8am. DH's brother walked into the ward (I don't get on with him so god know why he wanted to see us) and it was only because I went to get a coffee that he was able to come and see us. I had to stay in hopsital until Monday (I had him on Friday morning) because of the pre-eclampsia. I would let them come down once you are in hospital and being induced (you have the period of time that they still have to travel), but with strict instructions that they are not allowed in the room unless you say so.

 

I made a fatal mistake of having my Parent's come up and stay with us in our tiny 2bedroom flat the day we were due needless to say Alan was late. My parent's were really good with the hospital thing, but oh once I got home they drove me nut's so we packed them up and sent them on a bus home. my in-laws were great they live in the same town. They were happy to wait for a phone call, but as I went all night with no baby I sent my hubby to go and see his Mum she worked at the hospital) anyway long story short she ended up being at the birth it was so great to have her she is a very calm lady so she was great to have there. She also recently passed away with cancer so having her at the birth of her first grandbaby was amazing.
Anyway what I am saying sorry about the novel is to make up your own mind and do what is right for you if you change your mind half way through that is fine too. but DON'T LET ANYONE PUSH YOU AROUND IT IS YOUR BABY YOU CHOICE.