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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:13am |
B’s feeling just a little embarrassed. 
He fainted in ante-natal class last night. We’re sure it is a combination of him over-working (he’s been doing a lot of overtime!), he also told me afterwards that he had already been feeling a bit under the weather that day and then was the subject matter.
We had been talking about episiotomy’s and c-sections and my theory (I could be wrong) is that it was a little too close to home in that they are interventions which *could* happen to me.
He does have a history of not being great with blood, normally has to lie down for blood tests etc, he hasn’t fainted in years though and has been heaps better, heck he even patched a guy up who was bleeding heaps at work which once upon a time he wouldn’t have been able to do.
Still he is feeling a little worried that he’ll faint at the actual birth though I’ve reassured him that if he does I’m sure he won’t be the first and sure as heck won’t be the last!
My poor Hubby!!!! I really do feel for him because I know he wants to be fine for the whole birth!
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jack_&_charli
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:21am |
lol oh poor hubby!!! 
i hope he's feeling better today 
i'm sure he'll find the strength somewhere to handle the birth, we ladies do so i'm sure that men can be the same.....right??
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:21am |
ooooh dear! lololol 
How funny (well you will look back in years to come and laugh.. he might take a bit longer)
Mike used to be like that and at paris's birth he was VERY white - but at ayja's he was great - and you know what, in amongst all the stuff that's going on at the time i am sure that your hubby will be just fine - there's too much excitement and all sorts of stuff that he will just not have time to focus on feeling abit queasy. Have him sit at the head end of the bed if poss and have a chair so he can sit down. Make sure you take snacks - you might not feel like them but it's actually hard work watching someone give birth lololol (for men anyway ) but stuff like barley sugars will keep his sugar levels up and sammies or whatever.
He'll be fine... and actually the one's i have heard of actually fainting during the birth tend to be the really big manly blokes, lolol.... but he'll be fine.
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:27am |
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Awwww your poor hubby Paws!!!
Well the gory stuff is not for everyone, or we would all be doctors and nurses! My dh is very squeemish too and when we took our cat to the vet for an injection he couldnt hold the cat or watch - he made me do it! - needles freak him out, blood and stuff he hates too.... anyway he was also worried he might not be as strong as he wants to be watching all of that (which would be VERY STRESSFUL - seeing your wife or partner in so much pain) but I think when we get there he will be fine. I just told him he doesnt have to see any of it - he just needs to sit with me and hold my hand and tell me it's going to be ok. I dont even care if he sees whats happening at the other end - as long as he tells me it is ok. He seemed happy with this, relieved he doesnt have to see any of "it" although I suspect that in the heat of the moment his curiosity will get the better of him and he will want to see his child being born - and i think he will be fine and amazed if he does look. and if he isnt fine then thats ok too I guess - I mean I dont think I could watch a birth to be honest...
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:30am |
I'm a fainter too but have seen a couple of births myself. Just let him be your supporter by your head and then he's free to look or not as he feels like it.
All the best! 
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:55am |
Thanks guys, he feels better knowing people don't think he's a total sook!! That said he has cracked a smile over it so I'm sure his ego will recover....
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 10:14am |
Hehehe... does this mean I can tease him about it when I see you tomorrow ?  But seriously, poor guy LOL It is a lot to handle, and it's understandable that maybe he felt a bit wobbly on it. There was the possibility with us that Roland might have gone a bit squeemish, but when it came down to it, he even cut Erin's cord - I was so impressed !
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 10:18am |
Gentle teasing only! *lol* His ego is a little bruised still understandable but I've been passing on what everyone has been saying and I think it is making him feel better...
One girl on another forum said that she knew a guy who passed and broke his nose on the way down....he woke up in the next bed to his wife and new baby! 
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 10:19am |
Ouch 
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 10:25am |
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poor guy!!! if if wasnt for the fact that it was "me" going through the whole birth thing i honestly dont think i could suport hubby if the roles were reversed, i am the biggest chicken and faint at things myself so i feel for hubby. man it must be tough on the guy!
my darling hubby is total opposite though, he is fully into the whole gorey thing, he was right down there and even delivered my seocnd daughter, and wants to deliver this one too, he even enjoys holding my hand when i have my bloods done. if it wasnt for him i wouldnt go through with the boods, i always start backing out the door and he gets me in! lol.
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 10:46am |
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its amazing what you can do when you need to though, my hubby wasnt going to look at anything happening 'down there' or cut the cord but when you get wrapped up in it all he didnt even think about it. Im sure your hubby will be fine during the birth, and its only during the pushing that things get gross
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 11:05am |
My Hubby hates blood and I was worried there for a sec that he would faint (tho he never ever did before...) but when I was in labour he was there and he was strong...he didnt look "down there"....however I ended up with a C Section and he saw Zaara when she first came out covered in what ever...and he was so excited that he didnt care...all he said was oh my God she is beautiful......I am sure your hubby will be fine Paws.
We are here for moral support!!!
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 11:10am |
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Aw Paws, that's so cute...just make sure that there is a chair nearby when you are in labour so that he can sit down when need-be and have a choc bar or two on tap to keep the sugar levels high (for him, not you). You'll both be fine....or alternatively, you'll have another entertaining story to tell friends and relatives; either way, it's all good.
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 11:17am |
Well fortunately I do have 3 support people all up...B, my mother in law and my best friend...so I have plenty of back up and so does he!
I suspect he will be ok and he is planning on staying at the head end and all that...he's seen birth pics on line and all that...I think it was the idea of the interventions and cutting and stuff the icked him out...I wouldn't be surprised if he is totally into and fine.
If not apparently my LMC is excellent in dealing with squeamish dads!
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 11:20am |
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Hehe Paws, I may ask Monique to stick a catheter in my hubby for the event...he almost missed Andrew being born because he had popped into the loo...he came out just as Andrew was.
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 11:42am |
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Nat nearly fainted after Josiah was born... he doesn't do well with blood and used to have to lie down during blood tests.
I insisted he stay near my head, as I knew he wouldn't cope otherwise (and squeezing his hand was one of my forms of pain relief!) and left it up to him whether or not he cut the cord. He was fine through the delivery, cut the cord when the midwife asked if he wanted to... and nearly passed out 5 minutes later while holding his baby son. Good thing Nat was sitting down, and the midwife was available to take the baby!
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 12:07pm |
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hmmmm someone made a good point - I never really thought about how I would feel if I was the support person and had to watch hubby give birth - I think I would be pretty jumpy about it - and the thought of watching any of those procedures - esp the ones involving some sort of cutting being performed on my partner actually seriously makes me feel light headed - UGH*! NO THANK YOU!!! Its easy for us to assume we have the hardest job, which ofcourse we do, but that doesnt mean that their job is by default necessairly easy!
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 12:12pm |
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Yeah hubby is not worried about watching the birth or cutting cord etc and is keen to be involved, but doesnt know how hes gonna handle seeing me in so much pain.
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 12:21pm |
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The thing is, guys are very "fix-it" minded... which is why they are always offering practical solutions when what we want is someone to listen! Nathaniel said to me that the part he found the hardest was seeing me in pain and not being able to help. He didn't realise that, at the time, just knowing that he was there and being able to squeeze his hand, hearing him encourage me, and having him emotionally supporting me was exactly what I needed! Nat said he felt useless through the whole delivery and was really surprised afterwards when I thanked him for his help and support.
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Posted: 19 July 2006 at 1:30pm |
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Andy was a bit squeamish thru the birth process too... He stayed up by my head the whole time and refused to cut the cord.
Anmd if it makes hubby feel better, tell him that my mum (the midwife) fainted at her first birth too!! Luckily she was just the back up midwife! Her excuse was that the room was "too warm"!
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