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Topic: Oh my gosh!!! Posted: 22 December 2006 at 9:55am |
I have been working in a toy store this past week and I can't believe the amount of money people are spending on their kids its is amazing I am talking 5-6 hundrad dollar's on each child. Some of the staff are spending heap's too. It has got me feeling pretty stink Alan and Mikey have had a combined total of about $200 spent on them.
I kinda feel stink  . In saying that tho I don't think I would have spent much more on them anyway even if we had a bit more money. I am not into going over bored my Question is am I mean for not wanting or spending more on my boy's I jsut kinds feel like I SHOULD be spending more.
I guess this is a bit of a rant really.
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mum2emj
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 11:11am |
no deb, you arent mean!
i think some people do tend to go over the top! i personally wouldnt myself, but there are plenty of peple that like to give there kids everything. i was at the warehouse the other day and saw a women and her mother with two HUGE trollies full of toys... i looked down at my trolley with a few toys.... i honestly dont feel bad.
my kids have got plenty of toys, and i really want them to learn the value of things. when i was little i harldy got much and really loved and appreciated the things that i did get. and Christmas is about more than a few presents... i think whats more important to me is the kids knowing the real meaning of christmas, and celebrating christmas with our family.
but like i say, everyone is differnt, we all have different values and beliefs.
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 11:31am |
I agree, if you get too much for your kids they'll be so overwhelmed they won't enjoy it anyway! I like to go for development-stretching activity type toys because they keep the interest for longer.
We're on a tight budget so over-spending on our kids just is not reasonable. This Christmas they are getting bangles, duplo, and a pull-toy shape sorter, and for Hannah's birthday she is getting a doll she can dress. Our kids have heaps of toys, mostly hand-me-downs, and they'll get more from grandparents/uncles and aunts as well (not heaps though).
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11111
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 11:33am |
Thanks guy's I know i am being reasonable but it was jsut getting me really down when I saw what people were buying and some of the staff meade me feel a little bad not intenionally tho.
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 11:48am |
Christmas should never be about how much money you spend...you're not a bad mum for not spending that much on your kids...you're a sensible one!! Imagine them having to deal with the credit card bills and debt after Christmas when then toys are probably just about forgotten a short time later!
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 11:49am |
LOL so true paws.
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 12:04pm |
You know what I have found out about spending money on kids? We were always not that well off growing up, and we got so many presents. My mother stills buys a stupid amount of things for my sisters kids (To the point where it is hard for my sister and her DP to find something to buy their own kids!).
Then I met a few friends who grew up with quite a lot of money - and they tended to get one or two special things, then a couple of other bits and pieces - and there were no expectations of stupid amounts ofmoney spent.
I see it still with the kids I teach. Some people use Christmas as a way to make up for what they (wrongly) see as personal failings. In reality all they are creating is super egocentric me me monkeys who get whqt they want and don't understand the value of money nor the value of Christmas!
(Yup, huge generalisation above and I know some people just like to spend loads of money and that is great for them, but I know this happens in plenty of cases! Taht is why budget services have so many new clients post Christams as people can't pay for what they bought).
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 1:05pm |
Miss yep I've seen that time and again too. It's really sad because it actually makes the whole Christmas season quite stressful on parents (and another motivation for them is to keep up with the Joneses), and kids always feel the tension  I've heard of heaps of people who get to Christmas and they're still paying for last Christmas! Ugh!
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 1:56pm |
i have spent about 100 on my sona nd my newphew this year and i dont think thats too over broad mum has already given themsome of there pressy but dont feel bad at least we wont be in debt from xmas this year
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 2:07pm |
Ella plays with very few of her toys. We are only getting her about 5 things this year, none of them hugely expensive either. If we had a yard for her to play in, I would have spent more to get a trampoline or slide/swing set, but we don't yet.
Christmas is hugely comercialised (sp?) now and the amount of advertising is ridiculous. I think things like spending time together, by baking, making decorations etc etc are much better than spending money on your kids (note to self, need to do some of these  ). I want Ella to grow up appreciating things she is given, and if she ever turns around and starts whinging and whining because she didn't get enough presents, I will kick myself. I hope I can teach her that there is more to life than that. The true meaning of Christmas is in giving, not receiving anyway
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 2:55pm |
If we hadnt got Hannah a swing set ($200) we wouldnt have got her much at all. Just got her a dvd, some books and a few cheapie $2 things for santa sack. I really really dont want her to be spoiled and expect heaps. So Deb, you are definitely not the only one
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 2:58pm |
I spent about $50 on ella this year coz shes so young but the family and friends have contributed and now shes got over 20 things im kinda dreading it to be honest
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 3:06pm |
If she gets heaps of toys, put some in a box and rotate them every few weeks. I did this after Hans birthday and she gets so excited whenever we swap them over - they're all like brand new toys for her!!
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 3:16pm |
thats a real good idea Aimee.
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 3:16pm |
Just gets boring opening them all!!
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 3:19pm |
Yer spesh when they arent for yourself
Thats a great idea Aimee. I think alot of it is clothing which is cool but i have no room for more
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 4:29pm |
We've ordered Ella a Jolly Jumper for Christmas, and I've also got her a little set of money box, photo frame and little keepsake box for kids (just $2 ones, but very cute!). I don't think your Christmas spend is a cheap one, Deb - $200 on 2 kids is a good whack of gifts! And anyway, who cares what other families are spending? We've all got our own priorities, eh.
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 4:57pm |
yeah how many of those people put it straight onto the plastic...or used all of their xmas bonuses and will be paying for it into the new year....hmmmm
crazy!!!
We can afford that but why would we....that is nuts...$500 per child for xmas...bugger that...I dont even spend that on DH!!! let alone on me or a child...
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 4:58pm |
I think I have only spent $30 on Olivia, I would have spent more but 1 toy I gave to her as soon as I got it home and the other was free but too old for her.
Olivia is too young to care at this age, it is really only extra pressies for me to open on christmas day rather than her. Anyways she is getting totally spoilt rotten by my other family members  .
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Posted: 22 December 2006 at 6:29pm |
From Daniel and I Ethan is only getting 1 present and that is a decoration for the tree. It is one of the xmas balls from Ezibuy and it says Ethan 2006. That is all he needs because it doesn't mean anything to him at the moment.
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