I use that quite often. For example everyone knows I feel very strongly that (Dont read further if you have a weak heart or get upset quite quickly)....
Breastfeeding is best for baby. Sorry but science cant get as close to what nature intended and never will be. But I fully agree there is situations where breastfeeding is in fact not the best thing for baby and mother. Like for example say the mom is breastfeeding but she is feel resentful of it. She does not like it one bit and just do it because the milk is better and she wants best for baby. But eventually she is literally going to start "hating" (too strong word but you know what I am trying to say) her child as she is feeding and just want baby off. Where say she decide to rather give it up and bottle feed and while she is doing it she looks at her baby and is calm and relaxed and her child feels that on. I think situation two is better for mother and child.
There is a million things like this. I am against CIO. I cant do it personally. But I know of mothers where it works great. They can be a better parent during the day as their baby start sleeping through a lot sooner for them and they get the sleep the need. I think that is a million times better than a mother that is so sleep deprived and trying to textbook "attachment" parenting and eventually lost the plot and shake her baby in one second of madness.
And for me it is not just about mother and baby. No seriously. I had to echange my parenting with Andrew. He is a different baby afterall and second he is not my only child. I have McKayla as well where she was the only one when she was a bubs. And as hard as it is to believe Grant has a say in all of this as well. Without his support I dont think I could have extended breastfed McKayla past the recommended 2 years, co-slept and put up with more awakenings at night. He is there for me when I need it. (okay fine we have the normal arguments about helping out with housework ect ect but he is really truly there when I am going to drop the ball.)
I see mother and baby for the first year as a unit as such. It has to work for both for it to be a great relationship. A give and take situation.
Okay and that was really really long. Congratulations if you got thus far.
What feels right!
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