I think I’ve lost my cluck?

yEP AND THAT WAS RIGHT AT THE MONTH I FELL PREGNANT, i WAS SOO OVER IT AND THEN WHAM AND HERE SHE IS

Parki- I can SO relate to what you're saying!!

I was gutted to have a m/c last month and now am obsessed with getting pg again cos I just want a family so much...but the 'cluck' factor is lessoned this time around that's for sure. DP and I will be THRILLED if we do get pg, but part of me is now at the Can't Be Bothered Anymore Stage. Feels like my whole life has started revolving around charting and poas and bd'ng at the 'right' time. I kind of resent that but feel like I need to monitor things a little bit cos I'm 34 now and don't want to leave it too late.

When I stand back and look at it it's a bit absurd really. How I think I have any real control over getting pg is silly really... I agree with you that constant BFN's must be a big part of the cluck going.

I've got enough cluck to go round if anyone wants any.

Parki, it's not unusual to feel that way, especially since you have been so serious about it with the planned BDing and charting etc. Even when I was pregnant (and ours was planned too) I had times when I decided I didn't want to have a baby anymore.

I think that maybe not caring anymore might help you relax about it all which in turn could help you concieve.

Hey Kel,

YEP! I am exactly the same! Even enough to actually put ttc off for a while!

It was heartbreaking getting the BFN's when you think it wont take THAT long.

I am sure the cluck will come back - it is such a rollercoaster ride ttc so its no wonder we have ups and downs.

Wow, thanks for everyones replies! Glad to know Im not alone!

It's not actually the charting, organised BDing and all that stuff thats making me feel this way! Well its a small part of it, its REALLY hard to explain....

E.G; For the last year or so, whenever I have been around babies I have been so clucky and as soon as I see them I had almost a yearning for one of my own. Its all I could think about , its all I wanted and I decided that being a Mama was next on my 'To Do' list - So to speak. That we were super ready and that it woudl be teh most fabulous thing for DH & I....

Now, when I see a baby I still think they are cute, adorable and all that, but I don't have that same desire to have one of my own anymore. Not just yet, anyway?

Maybe after TTC unsuccessfuly for this long, its given us time to really think if this is what we want.
Where as, if we had gotten pg straight away, I would never have had time to re-think the situation.... Am I making any sense?

Definately. I was clucky but after this second miscarriage I feel totally disinterested in having more children. I know I will eventually but for now I am just not even going to think about it.

hugs.

I think i know what you mean. Right after I got married I really surprised myself how clucky I got, and had work/study not interfered to make it a bad move for us right then, I think we may have TTC then. However, we didn't, and I did find that after a while (6 months maybe?) the cluckiness subsided heaps. Must admit that it's recently come back with a vengeance though! We've been married for just over 2 years now.
The work/study thing is still an issue for us, so we are tentatively planning early next year to TTC, but I guess I'll wait and see how clucky I am then!
As much as I was clucky at the time, I have REALLY loved having my husband totally to myself for the last couple of years, and now I know that I'm very ready to bring a new person(s) into our relationship without feeling like I've missed out on that one-on-one time.
So thats my 2 cents worth. I haven't regretted no TTC at the time one bit, and I figure it will be all the better when we do get there for having waited.
If I remember rightly from NZWP you are relatively young right? In which case, if you are doubting if you want this now, I'd probably wait. I'm pretty sure the cluck will come back eventually, and you can enjoy life with your hubby in the meantime. Just my opinion anyway

Since I hit my 30s I get clucky at everything, even puppies and kittens, and now that my nieces are growing up they're absolutely beautiful and wonder what they'd be like having cousins.

I think its when the cluck factor goes away and you still want to be parents, despite the realities of sleep deprivation, dirty nappies and stretch marks thats when you're really ready for parenthood.

I'm already there, convincing DH is another thing.

Does being pregnant and losing your cluck count????? LOL

I've lost mine at the moment - we've been TTC#1 for over 2 years now and i'm reaching a low again. My younger sister is having her 2nd on 1 May so I'm hoping my cluck comes back!