Advice on Friend

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Just give her a call. Probably easier said than done, but its not really a text thing.
All the best, hope it goes well (hmmm, I guess as well as it can )

I'd just kind of let it die out naturally. Like lilfatty suggested - just reply with something nice but non-meaningful, and gradually let the times between her text and your reply get longer. It's not fair on either of you to try to keep something going that isn't working for you, but if you can do it without hruting her feelings, that's even better.

Tell her you're on prepay and texting every day is costing too much...

I would do the short text responses too, and not ask her any questions so she has no reason to text you again (till the next day ) , and sometimes go a day without replying,and when you do , just again be short and to the point

pepsi wrote: Tell her you're on prepay and texting every day is costing too much...

 

I agree with this, and what Kaiz said, I was thinking of saying this to her, about my plan changing and the text thing.  Cos at the mo, I've never had that as an excuse not to text her.  I think that will be the way to go.  And I thought that it would be interesting to see if she will try contacting me another way if the texting stopped/slow down.

 

I put most of my pic's up on bebo, which she's connected too, so can see what I'm up too,but her page is almost bare, with hardly any pic's whatsoever, so i can't see what she's up too or her kids.  No wonder she doesn't care if she never see's me in person, she can see me on bebo everyday!!  I hardly know anything about her kids either, as soon as one of mine reach a milestone I'm texting everyone!  But I never hear what her kids are up too.  So I really feel like I don't know anything about her anymore.  Sounds like she's much more interested in my life, than telling me what's happening in her's.

Exactly Kaiz, I do wonder what she see's in our friendship really, and I'd like to think that she would want more, than just being a text buddy, cos that's all she feels like to me.

 

I had a brilliant idea just before, and thought I'd tell her that due to the economic times, DH & I have decided to cut our spending, and I was going to go on pre-pay instead of contract, so I wouldn't have $10 text anymore, so I wouldn't be able to text freely etc.  I thought that was the perfect excuse to subtly say I won't be texting her anymore!

 

I do wonder if she thinks it's normal to have a friendship like this.  I don't have any other friends that only ever text me the way she does.  Although the rest of my friends live in the same town as me so we do see each other personally on a regular basis.  I know that due to our DH's not having a friendship, it's just us two keeping it going, but I'm the one that goes to visit her, more than she's come to visit me.  I would love for her to come & stay with the kids, but she's never asked nor mentioned about ever doing that.  Before I had Jett I went up about 3 times with R & G to stay for a few days, and whenever we were ever in her town we'd stay with her, but since we now have 3 kids we tend to stay in a motel when we're up there as I feel like it's too much for us all to stay with her and she wouldn't have enough beds.  But she's never ever offered to put us up either when she knows we'll be going there, so it's always me asking to stay with her and now I feel like I'd be putting her out if we all went to stay.

Well I've sent her a text saying I'm now on prepay (though I'm not) so my texting will be scarce from now.  I hope she gets the point and doesn't text me so often, and her texts will be more informative about her life.  Or she tries to contact me in a more personal way!

Oh yeah, and the other good thing about doing it this way is that there is no dramatic "break up"..and one day down the track you might enjoy a catch up to see where you're at in your lives..

Yeah I'm glad I've done it this way, I didn't want a big thing with it.  I was just over the mundane texting business.  I probably won't hear my phone beep nearly as much now, haha.  After my text to her, she replied and asked if I was on contract, in which I said yes, but that I'd got out of it.  I know I'm lying to her which makes me feel REALLY bad, but if it means not hurting her feelings by telling her the real reason I won't be texting her much anymore, then it's better this way. 

 

We'll see where it takes us.  If she wants to keep up with friendship regularly she's going to have to try harder than just a text.

Now as a TEXT BUDDY myself I just thought I would put my two cents worth.

I like my friends to know 'hey I am thinking of you even though life is so busy' so thats why i text my friends rather than ring them - also I don't want to interupt what they are doin and normally they are at work or its late and don't wanna ring.

How ever your friend seems to be different in the fact when she could see you she didn't.

If you want to limit contact - I would do the short answers after a couple of texts - don't short answer every text cause thats like a conversation in itself and you will get sick of it and she won't think any different.) You could say you are busy and you will try and text back later - then don't.

You could also ring or text and say you prefer talking on the phone or something like that if thats what you want.

Its sad friends ships fizzle out - its happened with me - although i was the one wondering why. Don't wipe your hands of it and as you said will still see her ifs shes down your way.

Good luck with what you decide