Facebook and Work

Hey Ladies

Hoping someone knows about Facebook and the law (There seems to be a bit of a black hole!)

A bit of backround - DH and his best friend work together. DH's best friend has been stalked/harrassed by a girl they work with. It's been going on for quite some time.

Anyhoo, my profile is private, I am friends with DHs best friend on Facebook.
Last week I updated my status with something about my dog, Dhs friend commented on it and after about 25 comments the subject turned into a conversation between DH and his friend. They were talking about girls and DH said:

"Yeah, or psycho stalkers who just don't get the hint and F off!"

This girl who DH was talking about is friends with his best friend on FB, she stalked his page, clicked on the part where it had said he had commented on MY page, and read it.
Now shes made a complaint at work about DH for "harrassment" and claims her work is now being affected by DH and his comment. Never mind the fact that he never ever mentioned her name, or the fact that she stalked my page to read it (Wish I knew about making my status updates private!)
Or the fact that she is a crazy stalker who started all of this in the first place and won't leave DHs friend alone!

DH has a big meeting with management on Monday - can they do him for this? Especially if he never mentioned her name? Shes printed everything out (Man I am livid!) and presented it to management.

Help?!

Thanks.

He has played "dumb" but management told him to "cut the crap we all know you must have been talking about her"
This was after hours as well.

Wow she really is a psycho to stalk your page, then take offence at a comment which she should have never seen, and take that to management!  I hope your Dh gets through it ok, and they see she's just wasting their time with the issue!

 

Personally I don't see how it relates to 'harrassing' her!!  Grrrrr!

 

And tell Dh's friend, that from now on, if he's going to comment on your page - to delete the post on his page saying that he's done so.  So she can't go facebook stalking you!

crazy biarch! she must know shes been 'stalkerish' if she automatically presumes they were talking about her. weirdo!

*hopes she doesnt stalk this hhaha*

What about his BF why does he not step up & say what has been going on if she is really stalking him he should just tell her to leave him alone & advise his boss at work, which I take it he has not so maybe he likes the attention & playing games why is she on his FB, sound like BF is a bit of a jerk & let this happen, & now your DH is going to cope flack over it.

I think DH should be taking BF into meeting & getting him to explain what has been happening.

Although I don't think they can do anything to your DH, he is now in a position at work he should not be in.

People should remember if they are going to say things about people either by mouth or the WWW, if that person hears it, chances are it will come back & bit them in the butt. Anyway what the hell does BF expect when saying things aimed at her when she has access to this FB?????

Thanks Ladies.

Yeah his BF is going to be at the meeting and is going to tell the story - but like you said jazzy if she was that bad why was he friends with her..? I too think he enjoyed the attention and now its got out of hand!
I really hope nothing happens -I am worried he will get in trouble as he doesnt cope well when confronted by people and he has quite a mouth on him

kaiz231, I don't think he will get in trouble, as she was not named & it has nothing to do with work, so I would be asking why he is in there & if he is union I would take them.

He could play it 2 ways...he could say it was not about her & where does she get off using a conversation between 2 people out of work & not about work & drag it in to work & he could put in a grievance against her.

secondly he could say that she has been stalking BF, & making the work environment unpleasant for them & this conversation was a trap to catch her out & now they have the proof they want to take disciplinary action against her for stalking with malice & intent to do damage to there work record.

If he plays it smart then he will come out smelling like roses & the victim, but I think his BF need a smack in the head draging your DH into his games.

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Yeah - Tall Jan is Malicious
I can't believe his bosses are even taking this seriously. I hope they're just doing it for show because really there isn't a case to answer.

Agreed maya!

I don't think the management team have a leg to stand on kaiz if they want to talk warnings or anything - there is no way to prove who they were talking about. As she wasn't mentioned by name and it was done after hours, it really is their personal business and they should just get advised to keep all personal stuff outside of work. (aiming this at her not your DH!!).

We have had to talk to a girl at work - no warnings or anything, just a reminder to keep her feelings about work private and not publish them on her status' when she is friends with dozens of people at work. I won't go into it but she was badmouthing the workplace and her team members were getting fed up with it!

I agree with the others..why are management wasting their time on something that has really nothing to do with work?
A bit OT but this reminded me of this email I got recently..
Why not to add your boss to facebook
whoops sorry removed this..on second thought it has some inappropriate language in it

Edited by Genie