choosing godparents??

Heya ladies... need advice...

When is it a good time to start thinking about choosing godparents, we plan to have a christening for our lil girl probably around 3-6 months old and well need to name them then.

Trouble is we are the oldest of our families so our brothers and sisters arent really appropriate though i feel my brother would be as he is mature and has voiced that he would do anything for our baby and in the case that we both died then to save my parents taking her in retirement or mats parents (who are ten years younger than mine) raising a grandchild that he would take her no questions about it.... Que the AWWW!
Hes 18months younger than me.

He is by far the most mature out of the siblings and already has a steady career and the money to be able to support her if he had to!
I also have a Best friend who has become the honourary aunty and is paying and throwing me my baby shower and has already made this lil girl spoilt rotten lol (she is a year older than me, and has a stable career and earns pretty good money)
I know she would love to be her godmother but is it really something you can trust to a friend that potentially could walk away anytime in your life?

thats our thoughts atm, her as god mother and my brother as god father with him having first dibs on her in the will.

Anyone have any other ideas?
Am i going off my nut even worrying about this yet?
We havnt even got life insurance or wills yet so have to get onto that as we said we would when we got a house or a baby lol

help...

Edited by BAMN08

Thanks tali, yeh i have talked to my parents about it and they said of course they would but even they suggested that DH's parents might be better just because they have 10years on my parents.

We will be obviously recording the "guardian" in our wills for her.
I think im getting mixed up as my godmother was my dads sister and was to take on me and my brother should my parents die.

So a guardian in your will is the particular that takes on the child but the godparents are just sort of "helpers"? for lack of a better word

Like the others have said, God parent and guardians are too different things. My DD has two of our close friends as godparents and my brother & SIL as guardians, should we both die. We got that written into our will after discussing it with him.

I guess I associate God Parents with being baptised.
This is what my parents did with my brother and I and my grandparents were our God Parents.

God Parent's don't have a legal relationship like a guardian would.

The godparents we chose for our kids were close friends.
We are quite young and so have the same problem re siblings.

The other thing we couldn't do was actually have couples. Because not many of our friends are in solid relationships. Henry as a God mother and father - one is a friend and was my bridesmaid and father is a good friend of dh's and mine, who we knew before we got together. Kiara has two god mothers, because none of our male friends we felt were suitable.
The other thing about ours is that they aren't all of the same church as us.
We see them as people that our children would choose to go to if they didn't feel comfortable coming to us. It was however expected that they participate in the dedication.

dh got a bit excited and started asking so our little bean will have 3 godfathers, and 1 godmother

kabe wrote: Like the others have said, God parent and guardians are too different things.

Although if you wanted to they could be the same people, that is up to you.
We aren't religious so we (or I ) gave the boys 'guardian angels' instead. Jack has my oldest Bro and his wife, Ben has my youngest Bro. My youngest Bro was single at the time but his now GF/DP I suppose would be the 'guardian angel'.

Also guardians named in a will don't actually have to have your child living with them, they are just legally responsible for them, I checked with my Bro who is a lawyer. Both my Bro's and SIL are named as guardians to all of our children (Jack, Ben and future children) in our wills, but if they decided for instance that my parents were the best ones for the kids to live with then they can. So you could name your Bro as legal guardian and if he is not in a position to look after the kids then he could decide the best person/people to do so

Oh and depending on your family, sometimes friends can be more caring and responsible than those related to you so don't discount a friend

Good luck with your decision

Edited by Linzy

we had this problem deciding who to have as Godparetnts when we baptised our son in our catholic faith. We waited close family/ friends who are catholic as what's the point having someone who doesn't believe in your faith as God parents.

This was particularly hard to explain to DH parents who don't understand the role of godparents. The role is to be open to the child discussing aspects of the faith with them and helping them in their faith journey regardless of if we are alive or not. So we settled on 3. Two Godfathers and one Godmother.

big decisoin was hard not to offend people, but people who are not religious understood.
good luck

BAMN08 wrote: wow amme! thats ALOT of godparents lol

DH was bestman at his friends wedding, after the ceremony they announced that they would also be having a naming ceremony for their son and all the bridal party would be godparents - there was 4 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen!!!!

Emily has very close friends of ours as her god parents we didnt do a ceremony of any sort just invited them around one night for supper and asked them then.

My hubby and I are my nieces along with my oldest brother so like the others have said you can have more than 1.

The question i have (sorry if i hijack the thread i dont mean too) If you have more than 1 child do they all have the same god parents? With #2 arriving at some point soon its something i was thinking about, do we give another set of close friends the title for this one so each child has their own or keep both with the same couple???