Pregnant again ... again

I am sorry but I can't offer advice, but didn't want to read and run.
Congrats on your pg and I hope the GP can give you the reassurance that you need.

I can understand about the stress of the ILs staying, mine live out of town too. I always wanted my parents to know before my ILs, selfish of me I suppose, not sure how you feel about that. But depending on your ILs it might be better to tell them as it may make the week less stressful, they may be a bit more bearable to live with if they understand. Plus then you wouldn't necessarily need to hide any emothions/feeling you have.

Anyway enough rambling about nothing. All the best for the rest of your pg

Im sorry to hear you have had two MC's, that is so unfair

I had a MC last week and already I can see that next time I get PG I will be paranoid as, so I can totally understand after two how worrying this must for you.

My fingers and toes are crossed for you this time Mitten! Let's hope this wee one sticks.

Take care

Hi didi,

It's nice to know someone in the same boat! Great that you've got to nine weeks ... sorry to hear about the bleeding, I can't imagine how stressful that must be, but I guess they are keeping a close eye on you huh?

The doc yesterday was great. He basically said that chances were slim that the GA could've done much damage, and since it was 3 weeks ago we probably would know by know if it had. My preg symptoms are getting stronger which is a good sign. Basically I can't change it now so there's no point worrying about it, as I'm worried enough just about miscarrying again without the added stress!

I'm seeing a midwife this afternoon, but my doc recommended VERY strongly that I go with an obstetrician. But that's partly cos of my age (I'll be 35 in March) and some other med history.

I'm trying to stay positive, but it really is so hard to relax and enjoy it and feel excited. Maybe in a few weeks! Oh and we told the in-laws, and they were happy but didn't go to 'full excitement' as they can see how we're worried. But they did take us out for dinner which was nice!

xxx

Sort of a close eye on me I had one scan 3 weeks ago, where they pushed my dates back by 5 days but confirmed a heartbeat and a subchorionic hematoma which is where the bleeding is coming from. Will have another scan next Wednesday, which I could have earlier if I wanted but honestly I am so busy between now and next Tuesday with work and if it's bad news I will be in a better place to deal with it on Wednesday. Apparently the hematoma could either dissapear or stick around the whole pregnancy, if it does stick around my MW said they will keep a really close eye on me as it can cause prem labour and issues during labour, but I think that's not really worth worrying about now theres alot to get through before I get to that point.

Great news re the GA, I guess if he was that insistant on an OB, then maybe that's the way to go. Although I think it depends on how good your MW is too.
It's great when the pregy signs start to kick in hey, as much as I hate feeling sick whenever I throw up I keep telling myself "this is a good thing, this is a good thing".
Sounds like a perfect response from your in-laws, my Mum has been the same way which really is perfect at this time. Part of the reason we haven't told MIL & SIL's is I know it will be 'full excitement' from them and I am really not ready to handle that yet.

I've been seeing a woman who does Psych-K as well, it's a little airy fairy but I have gotten some good techniques for helping to relax and think positive from her. DP said I was much brighter after a session with her, so it must do some good.

Oh no! I'm so, so sorry to hear that.

I can imagine how you feel and I've got tears in my eyes thinking about it.

I hope you can gather family and friends around you in coming days and grieve. How absolutely heartbreaking.

Sending loads of hugs xxx

I miscarried naturally with my 2nd. I found it quite traumatic but I think it helped me come to terms with it more quickly. My D&C just seemed like a bad dream afterwards. I hope it all goes as well as can be expected and that it's all over by Christmas/NY. Let's hope 2011 is the lucky year for us both!

My midwife appointment was good and she was really lovely, but I'm still confused about what to do. I'm so anxious and paranoid that I'm thinking maybe an OB would be better, so I'm going to make an appt to see the OB next week to find out how their process works.

Were you planning on going with a MW? Can you still go with MW if you are with the recurrent clinic, or do the OBs there look after you the whole way along?

I just told my mum so it's all starting to feel more real, and I have a viability scan booked for the 29th. Last time we got the scan a bit early (6 weeks) and it was unclear, which meant another week of worry, so I thought I'd wait till 8 weeks this time around. Hopefully it should be clear by then one way or another.

Fingers crossed....

The first few weeks are weird aren't they, it doesn't feel real (or didn't for me), esp if you have already lost some . . . its like trying not to get excited or too hopeful. FX this one will go full term with you

Didn't know that you could go with choice of midwife after going through recurrent mc clinic . . . I'd resigned myself to the fact that homebirth wishes were a thing of the past. Right now, it would be enough to get to go full term - not worrying about birth plan probably till I got to week 30.

Didi, wanted to recommend (I know everyone will be telling you stuff like this) when you see the mc clinic, if they don't send you and DP for karyotyping initially, I would recommend pushing for this. Hopefully there's nothing chromosomally wrong, but if there is, could save you a heap more mc's/later investigations.
FX this resolves for you quickly, (((()))))

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Thinking of you too Didi.

Mitten - hope you are doing ok too. FX for you

I'm doing okay, I'm going ahead with the testing, but only one HCG test and one 8-wk scan. I think any more than that will just encourage me to worry. And they should give me enough info to know whether I should get excited or not!

I had my bloods taken yesterday but probably won't ring for the HCG results until tomorrow. Does anyone know how long it takes for Labtests to get the results to a GP?

I still haven't decided whether to book with an OB or MW. I have to confirm with the MW I've met soon so I think I'll book with her, but I've also got an initial consultation booked with an OB in early Jan, so I might change later. Having cancelled on different MWs twice because of miscarriage I don't really feel like cancelling because of a change of mind is that different. Hopefully that's not too evil of me but will definitely miss out on the MW if I don't book soon.

My scan's not till after Xmas, so I'm trying to be reassured by feeling nauseous. I'm not working at the moment so I'm a lot less stressed than with my other pregnancies, so hopefully that's a good thing. I'm more confident about this one than my previous preg post-MC, so I guess that's a good thing too. FX!!!

How're things going with you Didi? Did the naturopath stuff help or are you still in limbo? Also, I was wondering about what your MW did after your MCs. My first one just phoned once, and was helpful about what to do for a D&C but that was it. The 2nd time, I'd never even met the MW I was hoping to book, and she just emailed but didn't call.

So far I've not really been that impressed by anyone I've dealt with, except my GP! I think if I'd really clicked with a MW or OB it would make deciding which to go with so much easier!

Having a bit of a panic today. My morning sickness was gone this morning, and I stayed awake till 11pm last night without feeling tired. Boobs aren't too sore today either.

Not sure whether I'm overreacting or not. This is exactly what happened the other times. Scared stupid.