Mums of premmies?

hi everyone was just wondering if there are any mums of prems out there who had their bubs in hospital for awhile. Reading through this site and about everyones amazing birth experiences has shown me just how different it is for a mum of a prem (or sick bubba) and just quietly feel a little jealous of not having my birthing experience like that. not that i would change it as my boys needed to be in hospital but i have finally realised how traumatic the experience was for me. At the time of the boys birth i was really quite numb. i mean after having them they were briefly placed on me which i can barely remember then whisked away on the hot dog incubators by the pediatricans and i didnt even go to see them for 3 and a half hrs after they were born. then they had needles in them and splits and breathing tubes up their noses etc. they are 2 now and i went to see the staff at neonats (we were there for 8 1/2 weeks) and i swear it just felt like it had only been a year since i had been there - the memories were really fresh. i look at the boys and marvel at how far they have come but i do think i havent really coped with their birth as well as i thought. anyway anyone oyt there feel the same or know where i am coming from?

Hi there, im a mum of a premy, and i know excactly how you feel, ive got number 2 premy on the way at the moment and im really upset that im going to miss out on the whole pregnancy, and proper labour, Caleb was on the neo nats for 3mnths and on home oxygen for 8mnths with on going medical problems.. hes just about 5 and has just been discharged from his speacialist.. yay it was a big milstone for us.. but yes i so no how you feel...

i guess i was lucky as i got to have the boys naturally but i really freaked out at the time because i so wasnt ready emotionally to let them come out - you know that feeling of wanting them in cos its the best palce for them. but i used to get frustrated with the silly comments from others when they found out the boys birth weights - i had one woman say "oh that would have been easy for you as your boys together weighted less than my boy!!!"
In the end i had to ask the doc if this was true and he as well as the midwives informed me it is harder to give birth to prems as they dont have the strengh to help you and mentally you are not ready.
It was thoughtless comments like that that really bothered me as not only do you have to listen to mums with their full term bubs in the ward but you have a sick bub and also the feelings of guilt and failure at not keeping bubs where they should be.
Anyway its good to chat to someone who knows how it feels to have all those feelings and to go thru the whole neonat thing for a long period.
just another moan but while i was in hosp with the boys i had a new mum moaning to me about her perfectly healthy new born and how hard done she was as her bub had got something minor like nappy rash. I swear i was close to letting her have it all - she was so wrapped up in her self that she didnt even get that there was a group of neonat mums just sitting there gob smacked ( and she knew all our bubs were in neonats and were going to be for along time)
Anyway good on Caleb (which btw happens to be one of jaidyns middle names but with a K ) for doing so well. We didnt have to have the oxygen bottles but i can imagine how hard it must have been to adapt but in the end we cope aye. Hope all goes well with this bub and you manage to hold on but in saying that also you know that if bubs is early that the care she will get is brilliant. I cant say enuf about the neonat staff that looked after the boys and me too with all my crying sessions. anyway thinking of you

hey no worries i so understand to need to get crap off your chest and like i said as above even thou the boys are 2 now the memories are still so fresh. i had the boys in palmy nth hosp and they were fantastic. i have heard of mums who had there bubs in another hops that i wanted to go to but am glad i didnt as they just dont have the resorces to offer the same support as palmy.
as far as the older midwives go they can be abit too much of the old school and i know its hard when you are young as they are so judgemental. anyway if you need to talk just pm me
take care now and hope you are resting up

Oh I had a c section, whats wrong with your uterus?? I have a bicorbanate uterus and havnt met a soul with the same prob?? my uterus is heart shaped and divided down the middle, and I have a vaginal septum, which means no no for a natural birth... and i had to go to Auck National for 2weeks with Caleb as I was only 26wks and Palmy hospital only takes them from 28wks, I didnt have Caleb in Auck I came bk here at 28wks and had him by Csection at 31wks, The staff in the palmy neo nats are so great and I wouldnt have wanted to have him anywhere else

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Jaidyn weighed 3pd 14oz and Keegan weighed 2pd 12oz. Keegs is still quite small be he makes up for it in his lust for life. Jaidyn is my chubby bubba but hes quite short too.

Judith hasn't posted for ages. I wonder if that means she has had her baby?

Looking at ur pics made me cry.They are happy tears though as i was remembering when we were there and how far we have come. your boys are absolutely beautiful K&JsMum

I love seeing premmies surpass all expectations!

My bother was born at 26.5 weeks, and is now a healthy 12 year old boy. About the only things now we are sure are a result of his early start to life is his asthma, and one leg is about 2cm shorter than the other.