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    Posted: 15 November 2005 at 9:54pm
I am sooo nervous !! I went to see my GP to get things confirmed today, get a referral for a midwife (going with Domino midwives), and booked in for a scan to see exactly how far along I am.

I know I can't be fired for being pregnant, but I've also only *just* started this job and am in our second week of training. They were also really good in letting me have three and a half weeks off over december / january because of the trip we have planned to see my rellies in Canada.

I guess I'm just scared that they will have a bad reaction, and not necessarily do anything silly like make it hard for me to work, but I know that bad feelings can be just as stressful, and I know also that stress is the last thing I need when I'm pregnant !!

Maybe I will be proven wrong and they will be fine about it and maybe even happy for me, but part of me can't stop feeling a little panicked.

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Good luck!

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when I told my boss I was pregnant I told them I wasn't sure what I was during Re: Maternity Leave etc. But if you are open with them and let them know asap (because its a new job) if you are planning on going back after baby is born (you get up to 52 weeks maternity leave) then you can all sort something out.

Will bump the Parental Leave post for you - good information in there!!

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Jax, How did it go telling your boss?
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Hope it went well today Jax!

Ooh I am totally clueless about what to do about parental leave and maternal leave and rah rah rah its so confusing! Who would I call to talk about it?
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Well, it didn't go too badly, but I felt it could have gone better as well - she was pretty non committal about it, and said she'd have to contact our HR department to get the official lowdown on how to proceed, what I might be entitled to etc. This is only my second week with them, and only in training as well. She did say congratulations in the end, but overall her reaction was pretty flat. The lady who is training us however, was much more excited for me, which balanced it out a little bit. I'm still kinda worried, even though as I mentioned before, I know they can't fire me. Sooo... we shall see how things go. I am booked in for my dating scan and bloods on Friday morning !
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re - the parental leave thing, Ring IRD and have a talk to them about it - you can either get paid parental leave - if you have been with your employer for 6 months or longer... it's a flat rate payment of $345 (i think) a week for up to 13 weeks, that's before tax.   OR, you can get the parental tax credit from IRD - which is the $1200 pay out after baby is born (may be less, depending on you and your partner's combined income).. plus family assistance on top of that as well etc - but as i said, give them a ring and find out your options - they can send you out a booklet to help you calculate what will be the best option for you. hope that helps a little
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thats extremely helpful thanks
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hey there, here is some information for you...
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Employees who are eligible for parental leave may also be entitled to a taxpayer funded payment for up to 13 weeks of the parental leave they take, increasing to 14 weeks on 1 December 2005. The payment can be taken by one parent, or shared between two eligible partners.

The payment for parental leave replaces an employee’s wages or salary up to a maximum amount. Currently, this is $357.30 per week (or $18,579.60 per year) before tax for jobs that the parent takes (qualifying) parental leave from. If you have more than one job, you are entitled to up to the maximum rate in total, not on a job-by-job basis. Like wages, the payment is taxed.

Information on calculating your previous earnings for this purpose is available in fact sheet “Calculating Wages for Paid Parental Leave Purposes”.

You are eligible for the payment if you have been employed by the same employer for the previous 6 or 12 months and you worked an average of 10 hours per week, including at least one hour per week or 40 hours per month, for that employer during that period. Information on calculating your hours is available in fact sheet “Calculating Hours Worked for Paid Parental Leave Purposes”.

In the case of a birth, the primary eligibility for paid parental leave lies with the mother. If her partner is also eligible then she may transfer part or all of her entitlement to her partner.
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hope thats helpful.. otherwise look here...
http://www.ers.dol.govt.nz/parentalleave/general.html
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ummmm Trish... what are you doing up at 4.09am!!?? Hope everything is ok!?

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Jax I had the same reaction when i told my bosss and I'd been in the job 6 months. The first words out of her mouth after a long silence were " Was this planned"

I mean really!Some people need a good attitude adjustment!

Still this is my sencond to last day hooray! Maternity leave here I come! Whooooppppeeee!!!
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HOW RUDE!!!!
My old boss was just as sympathetic... Luckily shes gone now. We had a big row over christmas last year when she wanted me to say for sure how long I would be off work (I was gonna have 6 months) but I found it hard to get across to her that I wouldn't really know until I had baby how I would feel, and as I was only 4 months pregnant when she was harrassing me, I had no idea! I said 12 months in the end just to p*ss her off, and it did. She left in march, and I am returning in a fortnight, after 6 months leave! HAH! New boss much more understanding, shes even willing to let me return on a temp contract so as not to void my remaining maternity leave if it dosent work out! Yay!
That is SSOOOOOOOOO Rude, I can't believe it, it is no ones business if your baby was planned or not!
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My boss asked virtually the same thing, and added "because you didn't mention it in your interview" !!! I wasn't impressed.
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I had a similar boss... but he got over it pretty quickly when I made it clear to him that if he didn't pull his head in, I'd go to his boss and complain!

My problem was I was actually about 20 weeks when I found out I was pregnant!
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I might be being pessimistic about this or whatever, but if they try to pull any stunts, or insinuate that I was purposely planning this behind their backs, I'm not afraid refer them to my lawyer or even to go to court - large corporation or not.
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lets just hope they dont pull a sneaky and fire u just before ur time is up for maternity pay eligibility(ie 5 mnths and 3 weeks since u started)
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I'm pretty sure they can't actually do that without good reason, or at least not based on the pregnancy anyway. I reckon even if they did it would be too suss and I could take legal action. Hopefully it won't come to that.
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Isn't it illegal to ask about someones plans for pregnancy etc. at a job interview?? I know it isn't allowed in Germany.. (still got asked at my job interview there though )

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i have an interview for teaching certificate next week i think, and I'll be HUGE!!! i wonder if they'll mention it?
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Well, even if it isn't illegal (although I'm inclined to believe it is), it's none of their bloody business IMHO.
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