BAH. Families

I'm so damn sick of my lazy ar$e brothers thinking that we are "rich" so we can "afford it".

We KNEW Dad was dying for well over a year before he died, and had fairly good advance warning of the end, as well, but do you think they had even put $5 away a week for emergency gas money or whatever? NO BECAUSE THEY HAD TO BUY SMOKES AND EAT JUNK FOOD

Mums (and Dads) birthdays and Christmas are at THE SAME TIME EVERY YEAR is there ever ANY advance planning? Even just a lotto ticket? NO BECAUSE THEY HAD TO BUY SMOKES AND EAT JUNK FOOD

So we pick up the slack financially alot, never a word of thanks or whatever, but thats what families do,

Anyway, we have just had a HUGE wedding where they came up and drank lots and lots of free booze, ate lots and lots of free food, stayed (for free) at mums and ate here or there (again, free).
Said wedding was booked into venue, date and all, 18 months before hand. So there was alot of advance warning.

Do you think either of those scum suckers even got me a friken card? oh, yep, a $1 one. A present? Even $10 between them? NO.

Not that its about presents, but I feel really upset that they think so little of me that they couldn't even buy a nice card, let alone even a bloody lotto ticket. Mum said they kind of feel its like we are rich so we won't miss it.

Makes me feel sad. Neither of them even had the balls to say hey we're a bit skint at the moment. I so wouldn't have cared that there was no gift, its just he lack on mention.

Shallow, I know. Just wanted to vent, plus am having the post wedding anti climax...

Edited by fattartsrock

you have my sympathies fats...i have a bro exactly the same - except he lives in the same city and my mother enables his money sucking habits alll the time.

Edited by GandT

yep, nor can my mom but no matter now many times i tell her she still does it, says its for the kids which makes it harder for her...

get home as in "Taxi", you can bet none of the bothers had $ for one.(one of which was so drunk, as was SIL had to be escorted out before I saw them and hit the roof at their state for embarrassing me...)

That sux and no not shallow of you at all. I just dont know how they can even think that was fine. People like that drive me nuts!!

Its not shallow at all, they could have made a card that said congratulations and all the best for the future. Its the thought that counts and it seems like they don't have that.

I hear ya! I don't think it's shallow, cause really it's built up over a long time. Both our sets of parents drop hints about how we're in such a better financial position than them - and we're not. Our income is fair less than either of them. When we were on the student loan we made such a comment to FIL (who comments the most and earns the most!) and he said "oh but you don't have any debts, so you're in a far better position". Never mind that he has one teenage daughter and we have 3 (2 then) preschoolers who still need setting up with furniture and clothes and nappies and all that. And he was earning at least 2x, maybe 3x, what we were getting including family support.

Thanks Annie, it was nice to vent on your thread

Oh Annie. That sounds horrible.

xoxox

That is so sad you would think that he would get his act together for your big day!

I didn't expect much from DH's family on our wedding day so I wasn't suprised when his mum didn't rsvp, ring or send a card same as two of his sisters, he father and one brother turned up drunk without a card, congradulations or anything thing as the night went on I smelt something 'funny' on the balcony and turned to see two of DH's cousins, one uncle, brother and father as well some people that somehow just turned up that I didn't know were getting STONED!!!!! AT MY WEDDING!!!! I was so pissed off!! Thank god my parents and kids had already left! They would have wondered what sort of family I married into! DH is nothing like them and we now have absolutly nothing to do with any of his family but collectively they gave me A LOT of bad memories of what was ment to be one of the happiest days of our life.

Ok rant over, sorry about that one my finger just wouldn't stop typing!

Aww, big hugs to Annie and everyone else who would like to divorce their extended family!

PS - OT, but Annie, PM me if you want another stocking this year and we'll work something out. I'm not "officially" doing them, but I kept one aside for you if you are interested.