How do you do it?

Basically today's appointment sucked.. got swelling but BP fine but might develop pre-eclampsia so may have to have growth scan(he was measuring big but now normal which she says is fine) ...have the hemhorroids(sp?) , and now have SPD.. so can't walk very well..have cells that are fine not pregnant but pregnant can cause premature labour so will be starting third set of antibiotics to prevent that.. and strep B(oh and three sets of trips to the dentist:( ) ... midwife told me of a case that the baby died in .though she said it is rare but does happen and as long as I'm treated I'll be fine( her point was if the next swab is negative they still treat you just in case which is fine) ..

anywya i know a lot of this is normal pregnancy stuff..but with Dh working long hours to make up for me not working and labour impending how do you I change my mindset...at the moment I just can't see him being here healthy...i want him to be of course and I hope so..but all these things that have/can go wrong.. and Dh just doesn't get it..

I know lack of sleep and the SPD aren't helping at all and most of the time i can relax and chill out but there are lots of times when i just worry it will all go wrong..is it normal? I think part of it too is he is the first Grandchild on my side and the first in 12 years on the other so everyone is hanging out for him to be here and since the miscarriage I feel i let everyone down:(

try not to worry, sounds like they are onto any potential problems and you are on the home stretch. Ethan will be here before you know it and he will be a healthy beautiful wee boy and all this will be a distant memory

caramel thanks:) my2angels..i hope so.. it's just hard..i always was a worrier but since the miscarriage I've been a lot worse when it comes to these things:( yes I am very thankful i have a very switched on midwife.. she's fanastic now esp compared to the start.. thanks james

yeah i know..thanks:) its just something (the birth)i dont have a lot of control over and it freaks me out:) ! but I'm sure it'll be ok....*repeats to herself*

lol thanks for the kind words..but i think after the miscarriage truely relaxing doesn't come into it..i get stressed until i hear his heartbeat everytime..hopefully it will fade after having him..I'm sure it will as I'm reasonably confident in my ability to look after him etc..(though of course i know it will be hard)

yeah i guess i find it weird i will go from doing nothing all the time to having no time free at all:) and that's awesome that they mostly disappear after the birth!!:) looking forward to that.. just confused as to why i have protein in urine and swelling but no BP problems?yes I've heard it will all be a distant memory right afterwards..:) hope so..must be as you are wanting to do it again ;) !

yes true...im hating the swelling makes my feet look and feel awful:( but never mind !!!

I always felt cheated after my miscarriage. I lost that wonderful innocence that most other women seemed to have with their pregnancies. I worried about every little ache or pain or lack of aches and pains (lol). My first pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks, I've since gone on to have two wonderful children with no pregnancy issues.....but very stressful, emotional pregnancies for me. I wish anyone going thru pregnancy after miscarriage safe and healthy pregnancies.

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thanks everyone..as you know now i have one more worry but hopefully it'll still end up ok:)

thinking of ya too Kawwwww... beats thinking about myself and all that stuff at the moment!



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