the day of your D & C

Hi all you lovlies...I thought I would just tell you how I am feeling.........
This is my first post after lurking around... I had a missed miscarriage. The hardest thing for me was that we found out that our dear bubs had no heart beat at the 12 week scan. This was the hardest news to hear as we had lost our baby after 8 weeks but my body never told me.. Just had my D&C today at North Shore hospital and they were so nice and advised everything that they were going to do. It was pretty nerve racking as I had never had to go under general anethestic before. Things were racing through my head. The great thing was waking up after the operation and not feeling a thing of what they had done. Now that stuff that they give you is pretty "good" stuff.
Heres to a great recovery.! I am having today and tomorrow off and see how I am on Thursday if I go back to work. I am interested as to how long did you take off work if you had a d&C?
xx

Thanks Kazzle for your support...
xxxxx

Sure is babe.... hows your little one???

I was on holiday when I had my last d and c (it was 2 Jan so everyone was on holiday!) so I wasn't at work, but I would probably have taken a week or so off. Not so much for the physical side of things coz I was fine the next day, but coz I was a weepy, emotional mess for a good few days afterwards so needed time to collect myself and work thru some things.

Nzbanana i am so sorry for your loss, it sucks it really does, for us we didn't know til the scan too and i was made very hard knowing by the dates etc and how perfectly baby looked that the heart had probably only stopped maybe a day or so before-hand.

To be honest, I took a long time off work beforehand because i work in a neonatal unit and didn't really want to be around babies when i knew that mine was inside me and not alive any more.

from the first scan, i waited till the next one a week later to make sure they hadn't just missed it, then 2 more weeks waiting for D&C due to hospital service strikes, in all i took about a month, I went back far too early though, had D&C on the monday, went back to work on the saturday afternoon and spent the whole night back and forth cos they'd left bits in there and i was passing huge clots etc.

I think alot depends on your line of work and how strenuous/stresful it is, and also i found for me returning yeah my body wasn't quite healed, but emotionally it was raw too - and surprisingly not as much from working with babies as i thought it would be. it was more from people giving you that knowing look, I swear i just wanted it to have never happened so they wouldn't give me that "i'm so sorry look". argh i hated ithat the most.

give yourself time and see how you go because certainly for me, the 1st day after waking up, ( i had never had a General before that either) i felt hazy and numbish and kinda ok, it was the next 2 days when the pain kinda came through and i had to put up with bleeding etc that all of a sudden I realised what i was dealing with and what had happened and it hits hard.

Hugest huge hugs to you, take a few days to recover like the others have said, make it a looong weekend.

Edited by mum2paris

*hugs* nzbanana,
Like the others who have posted, I had a missed m/c last April and found out at my 12w scan.
I started spotting on the Monday before my Thursday scan and had a bit of time to prepare myself for the worst news possible, so when I saw the ultrasound with the little baby just still it wasn't as big a shock as what you have had.

I had my D&C the next day and didn't return to work until the Wednesday of the next week as I had extremely sore cramps up until then, just off and on. All up I had from the Tues before my scan off until the Weds - so a whole week. It was hard for me going back to work as everyone kept asking how was I (they didn't know I had a m/c)so they just thought I'd been sick.
I thought I'd be able to get preg straightaway, but took me another 9 months which were so difficult.

Tomorrow I have an early scan for my pregnancy - I am so scared of seeing another 'still' baby on the screen. But with the support of everyone on this site, it makes things a lot easier.

PM me, if you need to!

emma

HI everyone I posted How to cope topic before I saw this.
I too had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and work in the health field surrounded by children and babies. I only found out last week and still really hard to cope with as I am also on the emotional rollercoaster IVF. My DH is finding it easier but I actually think that he is trying to show me he strong emotionally to support me but I know he is hurting too.
I requested a D+C following conversation at Fertility Plus but was told to let it come naturally. But finding it really hard as I have had yet to have any bleeding

Hi Louie74
I was told the sae thing as I had no bleeding either. I told them that I would wait 1 week not the 2 weeks that they wanted me to wait to see if it would come naturally. hence it never happened and I basically told them that I was "over it" and wanted to have a D and C.