Sex or lack of it?

Hi Kye

My husbands a medical professional and during my first trimester once we found out I was pregnant at just over 4 weeks he refused to have sex with me because he didn't want to risk it - this is extremely unusal for him as he gets grumpy if its normally more than a week without. Instead I was the one who was grumpy with him!!

Now that I'm in my second trimester(17 weeks)the story has changed and he's back to his usual self. We are careful but he's now lucky to get any as I'm now not really interested at all ha ha

We havent had sex since I was 10 weeks! It stings like a mother! Dunno why...so that really suckes.
But I feel very weird doing anything with him at the moment cos of my belly, I just dont feel sexy..so I cant get into anything..
Also DF is a bit afraid of hurting the baby lol

MM I have been lucky and not had any problems with my hubby other than that I don't feel the least bit sexy.

I think that its because moving around is more of a hassle now and I feel very heavy.

We had a pretty good sex life for most of my pregnancy but my DH refused sex with me in the last month of my pregnancy. Partly because he was worried about the baby as I was carrying low, partly I think becuase I was so big so it wasn't entirely easy to find a comfortable position and also partly because he read a pregnancy book targetted at dads to be that suggested that this is the only time they get to feign a headache or just downright refuse sex and it's their chance to 'get their own back' so to speak.

Hi Kellz

If your classed as a high risk pregnancy or have bleeding it is recommended that you don't have sex due to the increased miscarriage risks.

While I didn't have any bleeding and am not technically classed as a high risk pregnancy, I had some medical problems in my early 20's which ment my chances of naturally concieving were very low (and it is not reccomended for me to use fertility drugs). It took that long for us to get pregnant (we were about to give up for good)that DH didn't want to take any chances.

Once I was past the magic "safe date" so to speak and all of my tests and scans have come back normal then he is happy to go back to normal.

I think because he has done a lot of medical training and study, and usually only sees those people who have problems he is well aware of the problems that can occur and is probably a bit paranoid.

ButterflyMum wrote: Well we have been ok with our boy's, but this time everytime we have special cuddles I get cramp's after that last few hour's oh and DH has not fould it all the comfy this time.

I had this at about 20weeks or so and m/w told me i wasn't allowed sex unless it was with a glove as the semen was reacting with me. It was agony. But she didn't want me to go into premature labour. Come 38 weeks, we did it to try get the baby out! just contractions, no labour tho. lol.
always been bad, and no worse i guess once i got preggy, kinda halted first time round tho as i was so sore and uncomfy. but he doesnt have big sex drive and nor did i. This time however, he not interested, and altho sometimes i wish he would be, i relaly can't stand the thought of him touching me. is that odd?
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Haha my hubby helped induce my labour at 40w3d! He didn't care at all (except for when the baby kicked, that was weird!)

I saw a study recently where it tracked men's testosterone levls during their partner's pregnancy, and it found that testosterone dropped as the pregnancy progressed! My poor DH now gets lots of hassling about his falling testosterone. So guys do have a physiological excuse in addition to the gheadache and "I don't want to hurt you" excuses!

Mine didnt want sex either in our first pregnancy most of the way through - it also took him a while to get the images of me delivering the baby out of his head before he wanted to have sex again...it was a slow process back to normality.

This time he wants it all the time however it is just too painful for me now as the twins are putting so much more pressure on my pelvic muscles etc. Hope not TMI!

I guess its normal to have different ideas about sex during a pregnancy.

My husband was the same but only after he saw my belly huge and he was afraid that the baby would see it!! LOL


But KABJ99 is right first trimester has risks. We got it on and I started bleeding at 8 weeks, then 10 weeks and then again at 18 weeks even tho Doctors adviced us to stay away from sex after the 8 week bleed.

Not sure if sex was the reason for bleed but I will not repeat the same this pregnancy. I will wait till 2nd Trimester.