when to try again?

Hey ladies,

I know this has probably been asked many times before but how long did you wait to try again?
I want to try soon, maybe in a month but does trying so soon increase your chances of miscarrying again?
Haven't gone for my 2 week check up yet so haven't asked doctor and figured he would only have one opnion and not real life like you girls.
Also were you scared when you did get pregnant that it would happen again?

I asked the specialist that and was just this minute searching through posts to see if anyone had asked a similar question.

Our specialist said that there is a slight increase in MC again straight after a a MC and it is generally best to wait till after your first period post MC.....he also said to us that we might want to start straight away due to my age. Not sure. With my first MC, had a D&C in Jan and conceived in March and had a healthy boy in Dec. Now if the same thing could happen this time I'll be set!

My gp said that we were good to go straight away as I had a straight forward natural mc. However I didn't feel ready so waited until I had had a period before we started trying and then got pregnant straight away.
This time has been extremely stressful as I wasn't expecting to get pregnant straight away (although it is nice that i did) and have found this first part of the pregnancy very stressful. Luckily my gp sent me for a scan at 7 weeks where we saw a strong heartbeat and that has helped me feel a little more relaxed about things but I will feel a whole heap better once we have had the 12 week scan.

I think my best advice would be to first ask your doc when you can physically start trying again (i'm assuming that there might be differing advice depending on your individual situation) and then if you don't feel emotionally ready straight away just give yourself a cycle or 2, I know that my headspace 6 weeks after the mc when I was ovulating was completely different to only 2 weeks after when I ovulated (if that makes sense). I'm sure even if you age is a factor that 1 or 2 cycles isn't going to be that much of problem in the great scheme of things.

Personally for me, I want to be emotionally ready. I still haven't even thought of when I will start trying.
It's a shame cause MC takes away the innocence of pregnancy and replaces it with stress - all which is not good for either of you.

Will be watching for your good news Hannah![/QUOTE]

so true AN E!!!!

melnel wrote: I have also been wondering about this. We have decided to wait one cycle. Just incase there is any tissue left behind, it should come away with AF. That could interfer with another pregnancy as could an infection... From the information I have been given, if its your first miscarriage there is an 80% chance your next pregnancy wil be successful. My Gyno said that if we did concieve straight away there is no reason why it wouldnt be a viable pregnancy. They just recommend you wait a bit for body to back to normal, physically and emotionally. Hope that helps. Oh and I am petrified of getting pregnant again. I wont be able to look at the scan until they tell me there is a hearbeat. Another reason we are going to wait.. make sure my head is straight.

they do recommend one cycle due to emotional/dating reasons and I'm not sure about physical reasons as we had to wait 3 months due to late m/c and issues with HCg coming down..i was terrified the whole pregnancy esp during every scan(because we found out at the scan) i was kinda mad as it took away the joy of early pregnancy for me:( but waiting 3 months did help with my emotional state ..but that was just me personally.

Yup its the scan I am most terrified of for the same reason. DH has said I can close me eyes and he will squeeze my hand when he sees the heartbeat.

So cute.