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BuzzyBee 
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 12:58pm |
Right, we are moving out. The sooner, the better. I need my space and thats all I will say on the matter. It's time, Lucas is coming up 15 months - I CAN do this!
I need help- a plan of action. I have no idea where I am suppose to start. I need to write a list of the things we will need... I don't know where to start looking for places...what I am looking for? How the whole rent/bond thing works in general...How does WINZ come into this? (I've only ever boarded with my family and a friends family prior to bub coming along)
The car I drive, it's in Dad's name but I've paid for it but still have around 2 grand to pay off (he divides my board up and some of it goes towards the car each week). It was 13 grand when I bought it, I paid 9 grand (money I had saved), he put the rest in. So when we sell it I should at least get 8 grand back for another car. I am going to ring and book my full licence asap so insurance for a new car will be cheaper.
I will also need to go to WINZ and get all the info I need.
I won't elaborate too much, but i'd really like all the help/advice I can get from you ladies ...I need a plan of action. I'm really scared, but I have told myself I am going to bite the bullet and just do it. I will feel so much better for it, will be beneficial for both Lucas & I.
Time frame I have given myself is 1-1.5 months 
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MelanieAndBree
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 1:19pm |
Hmm, ive never lived by myself. I did live with my grandparents from when i was about 7 or 8 months pregnant till Briahna was 5 months and needed to get out of there!
The way i would do it would be i would sort out all the furniture u need. Winz will help in some ways i guess, ive never really gotten much from them, but i know that they will help towards neccessities like washing machine, fridge etc.
Winz will definately pay your bond, but you have to pay it back, so if your not too worried about owing them then go for it, i did and they payed out nearly 2grand for mine. But they dont do letting fee's you have to come up with that yourself and thats about 1 weeks rent plus gst. So id try go for private. I would go in and talk to them about it what you need etc, they should help you.
Theres heaps of places on trade me, you can also go to allrealestate.co.nz, realestate.co.nz. Buy they paper every wed and sat. Thats really good cause theres (usually a heap of private rentals in there).
I dont own anything! But my sister did, so i was all good so im not too much help, but i hope i helped at least a weeny bit lol.
We just applied for houses we liked! And then waited on them to get back to us. It was harder though cause we moved to tauranga from auckland. and our stuff was all over the place! (auckland, port waikato, hamilton)
so yeah!
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 1:22pm |
Probably the first thing you'll want to do is go to WINZ and get an idea of what family support (working for families), accommodation, and benefit you'll be up for, and also whether you could be eligible for a Housing NZ house too. Do you own all of yours and Lucas' clothes, beds, bedding, dressers etc? If you don't have dressers, go get some big plastic tubs or a plastic set of drawers etc (Warehouse and plastic shops have heaps) and start out with that. All the best, I'm sure this will be a great move for you and your boy
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 1:45pm |
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Ok, so from someone that has been a single mum and lived by herself,.
Firstly,you are over 18, and a single mum so you are eligible for domestic purposes benefit (DPB) , once you are working a certain number of hours you are eligible for working for families (but thats a little way off, so never mind)
Under the DPB you are entitled to accomadation supplement, on top of your weekly benefit, and like Mel said they pay your bond, when you pay it back you can pay it back however much you chose,eg $5 a week
I think DPB for a sole parent is around $263 per week, then on top of that the accomadation supplement which varies depending where you live.
You are also eligible for furniture grants, and $300 grocery allowance per year, plus $300 dental treatment a year.
If you ever borrow money off winz for something, you just pay it back whatever amount you can afford from your benefit perweek .
Goodluck !
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 1:45pm |
Busymum we do have quite a bit of stuff to our name. I own my queen bed, chest of drawers, bedside cabinet, several nice bookcases ...his cot ...I have a coffee table even (but no lounge suite - LOL go figure) ...I have a huge screen television/cabinet/dvd/stereosystem which I bought when I was working full time and living with my friends' family ...I went out and splurged when I was 17, all my hard earned cash did actually go into quite a bit (my tv & all my nice bedroom furniture) so I'm not completely destitute ...AND I have a laptop ...and I'm proud to say I put the rest of my savings towards my car & setting up for Lucas ...now it's just the whiteware (fridge, washing machine, drier ...lounge suite ...pots & pans etc etc) that I need. I even have towels and bedding.
That's why I have to write a list lol
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 1:47pm |
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Winz should help with the fridge etc chick
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 1:48pm |
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Thanks Kelly, at least I know I can come to you if I have any awkward questions!
I'm so excited at the thought of getting out on our own.
My poor parents though, they will be without a television ...their main TV in the lounge blew up just after I moved back home so my TV is the main one in the lounge now ....suckers.
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 1:50pm |
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ah well! sucks to be them!
Yeah of course....and a word of advice chickenwing, while there are some great case managers, there are some slack ones too, who dont really tell you what you are entitled to etc, so make sure you stand up for yourself if you know your eligible for something
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 2:01pm |
With the fridge and stuff i dont think you have to pay that back?
Im not sure but i know that the food grant and dental one you dont unless its over $300. Then any extra you gotta pay back.
Yeah some case managers are mean, one guy was like totally judging me cause i went in for a food grant saying why do you need this, your paying too much rent (even though i couldnt find a house any cheaper!) blah blah blah your gonna come back in a months time if you dont sort it out. why did you move here from auckland
he was a prick!
lol dont mean to scare. some are awesome and tell you everything you are entitled to! there are the odd ones tho,
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 2:06pm |
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With the fridge and stuff i dont think you have to pay that back?
Im not sure but i know that the food grant and dental one you dont unless its over $300. Then any extra you gotta pay back.
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yeah , thats exactly how it works, up to $300 you don't have to pay back , anything over you pay however much you can afford , a week
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 2:08pm |
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I am in Auckland and have a friend who fixes Fridges, so can help you find a good cheap one....he is forever trying to flick some off.
Other than that sorry I am not much help.
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 2:10pm |
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WINZ tried to tell me I was paying too much rent too... I wanted to bring in a paper and tell them to find me a cheap option!!
You may not need fridge freezer etc, lots of rental properties already have that stuff. Ours came with a fridge/freezer/dishwasher/washing machine etc. In the absence of a drier, I do advise getting a clothes hanger thingy.
To set up a power in your name you often need to put a bond in. I think a couple of years ago when I did it it was $200. Phone also I think you have to pay a month's line rental in advance.
Check out the Salvation Army/St Vincent de Paul for a couch etc and pots, pans and things.
Have you thought about flatting? Or is that not an option? I just know I HATED living by myself. Sometimes I'm driven a little insane by my flatmates but its worth it for the adult contact, sharing my wardrobe with my sis, and splitting phone/power etc.
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 3:23pm |
Can anyone go to winz for the food and dental grant ... that would be a bonus!
I work but cant afford to see the dentist 
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 3:38pm |
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Kmart does a kitchen starter pack... the stuffs not the best of the best and has things like: dinner set, cutlery, saucepans, chopping board, cooking utensils, glasses, frypan etc.. the basic kitchen stuff. They are about $200 from memory.
I have a spare toaster if you want it... it still works perfectly. It was given to us last year when we moved into our house.
Good luck chick, you must be super excited.
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 3:43pm |
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Nikki - Flatting is definitely NOT an option for us, I couldn't stand to live with other people ....I'm very much an introvert and prefer to be on my own with Lucas. In regards to adult interaction, I will make sure I get out regularly and join a coffee group/meet other mums.
I just can't wait to be on our own & not have my parents breathing down my back and all the family telling me how to parent MY child!
I love them to pieces, but it's gotten to the stage where I have to leave, for the sake of my relationship with them (moreso Dad, I will miss Mum like crazy as she is my best friend ...) .I appreciate them so much, and everything they have done to help out with bub ...but its time to stand on my own two feet & learn to fend for myself. Do you get where I'm coming from?
And on the whiteware/appliances and furniture front, I'd prefer to start off with my own things ...so if for some reason, we had to move into another rental home (say if the place was going back on the market) then I wouldn't have to worry about acquiring all these things for the next place. I'd just have to pack up and leave.
I don't really mind the idea of having to pay something back to WINZ every week in order to obtain the stuff, as long as it's in MY name and they for whatever reason, cannot take it back off of me!
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 3:50pm |
I hear you chick, I moved out when I was 17. I love my family, just couldnt live with them.
Dont reckon I would have a coped at all with a kid, my mum is far to knowitallsy and I am way to independant.
Good luck hun, if you need any help Im just a PM away (oh and about 45min drive  )
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 4:10pm |
Aww Thank You Melnel
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 4:46pm |
Take Fiona up on that stuff she offered you - is one thing I think you should do.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 5:14pm |
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it's a real bugger you are in Auck. as I could help you out with some stuff...
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Posted: 31 May 2008 at 7:06pm |
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do you have any kitchen stuff?
I am sure we have some stuff in boxes from when we moved in together you could have, i know there is definitely some coffee cups? they arent wonderful but do the trick, ill have a looksie tomorrow
good on you for biting the bullet you will love it!
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