why am i mad?

Yesterday i met some friends for lunch. One of my friends bought along a friend of hers, "megan" - Ive met her maybe once or twice.
Anyway, i was busy packing jacksons bag, and "megan" began putting jackson into his car seat. I went out of the room to wash my hands and Jackson began screaming like ive never heard him before. i ran in and my friend said to megan:

"You pinched him" and she said
"NO I DIDNT!!!!, i didnt do anything!!!!!!""

. i picked him up to soothe him and another friend walked in and said WOW i didnt know babies screamed like THAT!" and i said "thats because its his hurt cry"..
anyway, it took me about 10mins to calm him down, we went off to lunch and that was the end of it,

i got home last night and my friend had left a message that said :

"hey, id just thought id let you know, in case jackson is unsettled tonight, megan HAD actually clipped jacksons thigh into his carseat clip - i didnt want to embarrass her and cause a scene by saying something, she was obviously too embarrassed to say something. anyway, i hope hes ok, "

I AM SO MAD!! and i have been all day. i dont know why either? I mean, it could have happened to anyone, and im a very forgiving person and realise that accidents happen.. so why am i so mad with this woman?!
i know it must have been awkward for her as well as she didnt know me...
do you ladies feel the same when someone accidently hurts your child?
and is it just me or has this woman completely taken advantage of the fact that jackson cant talk yet

Grr Id be annoyed aswell!! But then I guess it was an accident....and she probably feels totally horrid about doing it.

When I was 16 I banged my nieces head on the car door frame putting her in the car. I was so horrified, I cried more than she did. My SIL spent more time consoling me than her daughter.

She wasnt mad at me, she realised it was an accident. But I know if I had kept it a secret from her and she found out she would have been MAD!

I would say she was embarrassed, but she should have told you.

I dropped one of my mum's friend's baby/toddler a couple of times But in saying that I spent alot of time playing with him! And I was only 9 years older, so it would've been months apart... these things happen!

I once opened the car door at a petrol station and Kellz's Isla fell out smack onto the concrete The worst thing was that it was me that told Kellz to put her there while we filled the car up coz she was grumping about being in her carseat. I was mortified, I felt so embarrassed!

So yeah, it doesn't feel good to do something that hurts someone else's kid, but I'd still own up to it, I'd feel too guilty not too.

pepsi wrote: I'd be mad too just because of the fact she didn't own up and apologise at the time. Accidents do happen and most people would be more forgiving if they could see someone was truly apologetic. Embarrassment is no excuse for not owning up.

ditto. Also I think both your friend and Megan could have handled things a bit better.

Hmm, only 'megan' lied.. Also, she was confronted in such a way about it, so it could have caused a 'protection' response form her ie. wanting to protect herself from a percieved threat to her safety.. I mean, your the baby's mother, and she doesnt know you well.. Perhaps she thought that you would uncontrollably angry that she has inadvertantly hurt your child..

Granted she should have owned up and apologised later....

thanks ladies, im glad what i am feeling is all normal.
i told DH about it and he said "thats what little kids say!!!" he wasnt so forgiving either.