| Author |
 Topic Search  Topic Options
|
Beani 
Newbie
Joined: 30 May 2008
Points: 17
|
 Post Options
 Thanks(0)
 Quote  Reply
 Topic: To those of you with 3 kids
Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:04pm |
|
Hello,
I have two wonderful children and can't stop thinking about having another one. Dh said if I really want another that is fine with him and we are not planning to ttc for awhile. MIL told me however that the third one puts a spanner in the works and that two would be much better. I was just wondering what others experiences of having 3 kids are?
I am sure I would be happy with just 2 but I can't help feeling my family is not complete.
|
 |
|
Sponsored Links
|
|
|
Mazzy
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: Waikato
Points: 1494
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:06pm |
I don't have three, I'm still adjusting to two, but have heard and read many times that the move from two to three kids is much easier than from one to two. Just thought I'd throw that out there! Anyone who actually has three kids feel free to discredit me!  
|
|
Mum to two gorgeous girls!
|
|
jack_&_charli
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: christchurch
Points: 7155
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:12pm |
i'm interested to see what people think too.....i'm soooooo yearning for #3.....but the only yearning DH has is for the snip! 
|
|
|
|
Mazzy
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: Waikato
Points: 1494
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:14pm |
|
Hah! We should have our DH's talk to each other - I'm the one here who is thinking no more, while DH seems like he's keen for another!
The birth is still too fresh in my mind - NO WAY!
|
|
Mum to two gorgeous girls!
|
|
.Mel
Senior Member
Joined: 14 January 2007
Location: Orewa
Points: 9078
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:32pm |
|
Ummm I love it. I however had the advantage the my kids all have HUGE age gaps... wasn't my ideal, but you get what you're given.
Conor is wonderful with both kids. Nyah occasionally does suffer from middle child syndrome and Cooper is so cruisey he had no choice but to fit in with us.
I think if you are wanting #3 think of the dynamics etc of how #3 will fit into your lifestyle. Also can you afford it? Do you have the room?
TBH I don't think I could have had them all close together, it would have done my head in.
|
Mr Mellow (16)
Miss Attitude (8)
Destructa Kid (3)
|
|
Candkids
Senior Member
Joined: 03 April 2007
Location: BOP
Points: 2503
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:48pm |
|
were looking at #3 too, although technically that would be #4
|
 DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above
|
|
mum2emj
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: Nelson
Points: 2829
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 7:06am |
i LOVED having 3 my 3rd wee girl fitted into the family really well- her big sisters looked out for her and accepted her. i found the transition pretty easy from 2 to 3. my gaps were:
1-2 18 months
2-3 27 months
after a while though i did start to think that an even number would be better so that kaz didnt get left out and i have just had my 4th 
i couldnt imagine my family without any of my children...
|
|
arohanui
Senior Member
Joined: 16 January 2007
Location: Auckland
Points: 4427
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 8:25am |
|
I don't have 3 kids but my friend does (fairly close together too - all preschoolers). She said it was SO much easier going from 2 to 3, than it was for 1 to 2......
|
Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... 
|
|
jack_&_charli
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: christchurch
Points: 7155
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 8:26am |
we have the room at home, jack's room is big enough for 2 kids...but we'd have to get a new car, come type of people mover, which DH does not like!
|
|
|
|
Kelpa
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Points: 1488
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 9:19am |
|
Hmmm well given that number 3 is definitely on the way...and might I add has caused MAJOR havoc with my body than either of the others....I cant quite make up my mind!!! Sometimes "Oooh cant wait to meet him"...sometimes think "OMG"...what are we doing given all the price increases...extra nappies...food...etc. We were definitely thinking we need a new car but just cant afford it now so will be making do with my car.....If we go out as a family well we might be a bit tight! Poor old Paige will have to squeeze in between her two little brothers car seats. Paige is a huge help but I sometimes feel bad she is not getting enough time .....
I think for the next couple of years it will be madness and quite hard work but DH & I generally very good team so will no doubt puddle through it all and out the other end!
Do wonder if we will both have the energy!!!!!!
|
|
|
|
ellen
Senior Member
Joined: 02 July 2007
Points: 225
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 9:56am |
|
I'm going against the trend so far. For me going from 2 to 3 was as hard as going from none to one.
1-2 = 3yrs 3 months
2-3 = 2yrs 3 months
Maybe it was because the age gap was smaller, maybe because I had one at school, one at kindy and trying to fit sleeps for the baby around that. The first year was definitely the hardest, but like you I didn't feel my family was complete with two. Having a bigger car wasn't so much of a problem until they were bigger and harder to separate.
But I love having three kids - and like I say it was a tough first year but for me it was a tough first year with my eldest so it's more a reflection on how I coped rather than the kids themselves.
|
|
jack_&_charli
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: christchurch
Points: 7155
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 10:00am |
 Kelpa wrote:
what are we doing given all the price increases...extra nappies.. |
cloth is an option to save you $$ 
|
|
|
|
.Mel
Senior Member
Joined: 14 January 2007
Location: Orewa
Points: 9078
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 10:27am |
|
We didn't bother getting a new car, we did look into but decided to stick with the Caldina. Conor sits behind the DH, Nyah in the middle and Cooper behind me.
|
Mr Mellow (16)
Miss Attitude (8)
Destructa Kid (3)
|
|
mum2emj
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: Nelson
Points: 2829
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 11:09am |
we got a new car- the people mover kind because it was the easiest option for us with all kids still in carseats at the time and it had the added bonus of spare seats for my parents etc.. and then once the 4th came along there was no problem for seating lol.
|
|
2bmumof3
Senior Member
Joined: 23 November 2007
Location: Masterton
Points: 477
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 1:58pm |
|
So far I'm loving having 3 kids and would agree the going from 2-3 is easier than from 1-2. We weren't planning the 3rd but now feel like our family is more complete. When number 3 came along my eldest was 3 1/2 and 2nd 2yrs 1 month so all quite close. Don't get me wrong it has it's moments where all 3 decide that they need you at once and you feel like pulling your hair out but that happens with 2 also. As for the car we went and got a good old odyssey to enable room for extras when needed. Although one very ugly car it's definately practicle.
|
Sara
Corban (22/11/04)
Connor (18/04/06)
Chelsea (21/05/08)
|
|
AnnC
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: Taranaki
Points: 6796
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 3:42pm |
|
I have 3 but like Mel all three are years apart. 3 to us isn't much different to 2. Rhyley just fitted in with everyone else.
Dh has said he'd have another - but I said NO...
|
Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10)
|
|
my4beauties
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: NZ
Points: 6264
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 4:39pm |
 I wouldn't say going from 2-3 was easier, as it made things much more busier, but I had more confidence in what I was doing 3rd time. I didn't stress as much about feedtimes, and let baby tell me when he was ready.
Gia was 22 months when Jett was born, and was just getting easier to manage with her & Rico. Put Jett into it, and I had barely enough energy to look after the 3 of them, even now!
BUT I love having 3 kids! I'm glad Jett came along when he did. But I don't think things are easy by any means, I'm busy all the time.
|
My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) 
|
|
busymum
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: New Zealand
Points: 12236
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 7:19pm |
I found the transition from 2-3 easier than 1-2 because I already had systems in place, etc, and was gaining confidence. That's not to say that three is easy though, it's a lot of work to keep up with all their different developments! But I want another, so it can't be all bad.... cluck cluck cluck
|
|
|
|
Beani
Newbie
Joined: 30 May 2008
Points: 17
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 9:30pm |
|
Thanks everyone. I find it quite busy with 2 so I can imagine 3 will be very busy. I didn't find it too bad going from 1 to 2 but found it really hard going from 0 to 1. It was a big shock to the system. We would have to get a bigger car as well. My 2nd has multiple allergies so we will be having a bigger gap between her and the next one. I was just curious as to how others have found having three. I like to plan ahead.
|
|
Bizzy
Senior Member
Joined: 01 January 1900
Location: New Zealand
Points: 10974
|
Post Options
Thanks(0)
Quote Reply
Posted: 22 June 2008 at 9:55pm |
|
i found one child a piece of cake, two a pain and three - well she just has to slot in where she can. but i think i lot has to do with the personalities of the child too.
|
|
|
|
To those of you with 3 kids
