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SMoody View Drop Down
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    Posted: 17 July 2008 at 12:24pm
My whole family is ready for another baby. McKayla is walking in the house saying to me Make a baby NOW. Hubby is ready. And so am I.

What I dont think I am ready is the whole ttc thing. Not the actual deed. Duh. Love that.

Background info. I had miscarriages in the past. Had a threatened one with McKayla and lost a twin but we could save McKayla. All early miscarriages before 12 weeks. Started getting anxious to fall pregnant. Lots of depression and thinking it will never happen.

I really do love my life with my girl and think I can be happy just having her. But I know if I have another mc that I would want another baby. I am seriously nervous about waiting each month to see if period will show or not. Going off the pill with next period and then waiting a month. I have PCOS as well so dont know when my cycles will become normal.

GP over here said they can put me on Clomid. Never been on it as my gynae in SA refuse to put me on anything until we tried everything natural. DH is against me going on it as well and I want to at least have the option after a while.

I am seriously petrified of the waiting and then once you are pregnant for those first 3 months. What if I go on bedrest again? What does this do to McKayla? I dont really have any family over here to help out.

If you got this far thanks for reading.


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to you Shirena!

I'm so sorry for all of your losses
I can't even begin to imagine the stress you would be under in those first 12 weeks and the idea of bed rest with a toddler is not at all practical or appealing.

I guess you just have to decide that you want another baby and give it your all and seek medical/alternative help when necessary.

Good luck

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I don't know how to answer this, I haven't been through any of it and I'm really sorry that you have.

I can't think of anything useful or inspiring to say but always know that we're here to talk things through and you'll be in my prayers.
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Maybe you and hubby could sit down and work out a plan for the worst case scenario? At least that way if and when you start ttc at least you know if you do need to do bed rest for those weeks you have a plan already sorted for how to manage/deal with it

Don't know if it makes you feel any better but I go through moments of absolute horror thinking about the stress and worry I'm going to go through in those first few weeks wondering if I'm going to have a repeat of last time (ectopic and miscarriage)
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*hugs*
I'm sorry you had to go through all of that.
Having been through a mc I worry about it happening again, I think that's only natural.
I like Kebakat's idea of sorting out the practicalities first. Think of a contingency plan for M if you do end up on bedrest at any stage, etc.

TTC is such a stressful thing to go through even without history rearing it's ugly head, so your fears are completely understandable.

Wishing you luck for your journey

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Grant is a lot different from me. He always say I am a worrier and that I shouldnt worry about something that hasnt happened yet and when it does we deal with it at that point of time.

He however will be dealt a problem. Think about it and chose a plan of action at that point but find it fruitless to plan for ABC in case DEF happens. Silly man. lol.

I know the more I will stress the longer it will happen anyway. I think I am just really going to miss my dr. Like really a lot. She was so so so great with us and included Grant in absolutely everything to the point of sometimes asking him if he is having any complaints as well ect.

Will definately be asking for lots of support from you guys on those dark days. Hope I dont have any anyway.

At least this time I know it is possible to fall pregnant. Just a matter of time and right baby.


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