Anyone in the same boat?

Hi everyone,

I am 30 years old and TTC baby no 2. My partner and I have been trying for almost 21 months and are about to have fertility tests done as it has been this long.

I am sooo frustrated and feel so disappointed every time AF shows up, I guess after this long it starts to get to you. I also have 2 pregnant friends at the moment so it's really starting to get me down.

Anyone else out there in the same boat? I would appreciate any contact, whether it's just to vent or whatever.

I look forward to chatting!

Lots of love

Jules xo

Hi there. I definately know what that is like my first baby was somewhat of a surprise and my 2nd took a LOOOOOOOOOOONG time... After 6yrs TTC we decide to get checked out and ended up doing IVF (not how I expected life to go). We now have an 11 year old and a 9mth old (and 2 frozen embryos).

You're definately in the right place to rant, cry, chat etc, it's definitely hard work trying to be happy and positive for your friends when you find out they are pregnant (I endured at least 10 I think).

Come and join the infertility thread... we really are lovely!!

Good luck with your fertility tests... we are here to listen and support you.

Hi Jin... welcome... we are here to support you!

Hey Julz. I totally understand how you are feeling. My 2 sisters and best friend are all pg and 2 of them are due any day. I really feel like the odd one out when we are all together (which is on a very regular basis). Come and vent on here whenever you feel the need......

Hi there,

Wow so nice to see I am not alone either. I read your little story and thought I had written it.

We concieved No.1 4 months after being married, a huge shock as we were not TTC at all.
We have now been trying for 3 year and 1 month.
We managed to concieve in June this year to find it was ectopic.
We waited 2 cycles and concieved again in september and miscarried in Nov.

I have not had tests done as we decided to change lifestyle and head back to work for a while.
Its so funny that I have concieved at a time when life was so extremely busy and stressfull and not in the carefree 3 years I was at home being a mum 2 no. 1.
My heart goes out to anyone going through this, it is extremely frustrating.



2Angel babies June 08 & Nov 08



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Hi Julz

I was very much the same as you, Alia was such a surprise & freak out that we expected when we started trying for number 2 that we though that's we'd get preg straight away.

After 16 months & 12 months of serious trying, with a 30 day clock work cycle & 2 miscarriages in there (which the doctors fobbed off) I threw my hands up in the air & said I can't do this on our own.

No matter how laid back you try to be about it getting your AF on due date was not fun.

So on the 15th of April this year, when I got my AF (day 1 in a testing cycle) I phoned the doctors & booked in for an appointment which was the end of day 3 & I also rang my nathuropath (he's in Rotorua & I'm in PN)

Nathuropath said to me over the phone you need to take A, B & C, A & B I had here, & He put C on the courier over night.

Went to the Dr on day 3 & got the stuff to start the IVF process. Went & got my bloods done on day 22 (I think it was?) & proceeded to wait for AF to start again so I could have the day 2 blood tests.

I never got to the day 2 blood tests.....I swear I was lacking certain minerals that didn't allow me to get a sticky bubby. 2 weeks to replenish & voila Amazing, I was stunned. There certainly wasn't any other reason for my Secondary Infertility & it's after 16 months the tablets were the only thing we changed.

In speaking to my Grandmother she also had issues getting preg with her 2nd (My Mum) & that she was told to eat a lot of bananas...which ironically have the same minerals in them as to part of the tablets I was prescribed by the nathuropath.

So if you find you in that band of "unexplained infertility" when you do or have done your tests it might pay to look at other alternatives as well? You never know, it may help. I certainly didn't expect it too but it did for me.