New to forum, TTC, 2MC

I am new to this site or any forum ever, but have spent the last few days reading as much as I can. My husband and I concieved end of last year whilst I was on the pill - although had missed a few. Very happy however miscarried early jan at 10 wks. I was told I didnt need D&C as most had bleed out, but in May I had D&C as still hadnt had period and felt very hormonal with positive urine tests and slow dropping HCG. After D&C had a period a few days later and then fell preg straight away. MC at 5 wks, didnt know preg till mc. First MC was spotting, cramps, bleeding over a few weeks, 2nd mc was strong cramps and clotting over 1 day. I was counting days between periods to try and see what my cycle was. 2nd mc was at day 34. At the A&E my Urine test was still negative, but the foetus was sent away and showed +ve preg.   I then had another bleed at day 31 which I never showed as being +ve but was bright red bleed with bit of cloting. So possible 3rd MC, but not confirmed. Unable to go to Recurrent MC clinic until 3 confirmed MC. I paid to go to a specialist and have had a number of blood tests, so far all good, Karotype test we get back this week. My hubby and I meet with Specialist Thur. I am soo frustrated etc. I am trying to chart Mucus, but its all over the place, well seems to be later than day 14 and this month wasnt much. Now am day 28 and bit of mucus like they say you should have around ovulation. Nipples sore and a bit sicky one morning, but maybe due to overseas travel and not eating due to hot weather - dehydrated etc. I also exercise a lot. Its only been 1 year since first preg, but 2 (maybe 3) mc and I am soo frustrated. I have cut back on my sport (semi professional) to TTC but this is not happening. I am sick of being told, keep trying, it will happen, well at least you can get preg etc. I feel I have no one to turn to. My friends have either got preg easy, never had MC or been preg and my mother has very ill health so trying to keep things from here. My nipples have been erect since first preg. I get crampy tummy on one side around days 23 - 28 and think maybe preg, but then bleed and poss period. I dont really know where to go - I am very impatient. I was going to preg test today, but think getting a -ve would be too upsetting.   Friends say stop thinking about it, but very hard when your body constantly sends reminders, or each time you go loo you are checking for blood, your monitoring your days, etc etc. Any advice tips. There is soo much on this website and I am slowly getitng through it all. Its nice to read that I am not alone, and that there are a lot of you having success.... I really wish I can have a baby soon. My hubby is 31 and I am 30. Both fit and healthy. My only downfall is chocolate and cafinne....trying to decrease this. Appreciate any feedback, and sorry for the long blog!

Big hugs from me too. I wish I had some amazing advice to offer but not really, just hugs and supporting vibes

It sounds like you have really noticed your body has changed since MC - nipples, different crampy feelings, etc. I think that is completely normal from what I've read, I experienced body changes like that too. They are sure confusing for TTC though, but a big part of me still welcomes them as it helps me feel more connected to having been pregnant.

And it is so hard to stop thinking about all this, no matter what friends and family say!

Hi Bree,

I have had 2 mc's and gave birth to a Baby in May (she passed away) (stillborn).

I know how frustrating pregnancy can be and all the worrying we as woman go through.
I orginally went to Recurrent Pregnancy loss clinic, if you get a referral from you GP you are allowed to go there.
Keep in mind, they only see you until there is a heartbeat then you have to find a OB or midwife, they don't see you all the way through.
At that point I wanted the best so we went to a provate specialist.
I am now 9 week pregnant with my 4th pregnancy.

I got an ovulation kit from Life pharmacy for $34 there were 10 test kits, I would recommend them.
Also if you want to see if you are ovulating ask you GP for a scan, I had one to see that I was ovulating and it was amazing, you got to see my ovary and then the egg getting ready for release, 3 days later I was ovulating.

There are so many things that you can do, I found the temp and CM charting terrible, that didn't work for me.
I went and got a maybe Baby, I found this was the best thing ever, it gave you an accurate reading and it gave you loads of warning that ovulation was approaching.

I wish you all the very best.

Hi Maude - I have just read your reply and feel bad I have been upset when you have been through far more. I can imagine you are on tenderhooks as well. I have a maybe Baby which I used at the begining of the year, however this was after my first MC and I got false readings as my body was all over the place. I havent started to use it again, as I just felt depressed - maybe I should start!
I'll let you know how specialist goes tomorrow (we are paying private as well). I hope this current pregnancy of yours goes well. Thanks

Simon Kelly, at fertility associates and also been reccomended to Paul Robinson at Origins in Mt Eden in Auckland.
I'm worried I will go to see them and they will say there is nothing they can do - if all my blood tests come back normal, then they say just keep trying. Apart from my first MC when I knew I was preg, the 2nd (and 3rd unconfirmed mc) occured around day 31 so I didnt even know I was preg. I keep thinking each cycle I am preg, but then no. Symptoms nipples pointing out and sensitive, tummy cramps. Boobs not sore though. So today day 29 and this is how I feel, but scared its period due. I dont know my normal cycle as 12 months prior to first +ve preg I had no period due to the type of pill I was on.
Very frustrating....

thks - will let you know tomorrow. Its refreshing this site - so many people and always someone similiar.
I wish you all the luck to. Did you have 2 mc then still born? how far apart? Where you trying long to concieve? Sorry being personal - you do not need to reply.
;-)

thanks - will update you tomorrow.

oh hun that sucks, of course you're at the end of your tether a bit it's all such a rollercoaster.

Was the slightly high result for clotting antibodies? That is why I'm on baby aspirin since the last MC. My result for that was within the norms too but on the high side (can't remember what it was). Hopefully that will help things a lot, it has helped other people I know delivery healthy bubbas.

I'm not preggo at the moment (not as far as I know anyway, would be great) but have been preg twice, probably three times. 99% sure had chem preg/early MC nearly 10 yrs ago. Had MC last July, and another this May. Feel like have been trying forever! Will be a couple years at least now, don't want to think about exact length of TTC too much!

Recently I too have started using a MaybeBaby saliva ov tester and charting my temps/symptoms on Fertility Friend. This is helping me work out what my bod is up to (as much as that's possible!). But as for cervix and mucus, I can't seem to work those out so mostly ignore them. Not sure if I get EWCM at all, but then apparently not everyone does?

Fingers crossed for Monday
I did a blood test this morning and am waiting for the results. Missed my period but am on Provera which can stop it coming - negative urine test but doing a blood to be sure.
I just want to get to 20 weeks so I can relax a little!
The cheaper ovulation test kits are first response, and the more expensive digital ones are clearblue.
Good luck