Advice after MC’S please

Hi dotty, so sorry for your losses. I understand completely. My first MC was in Jan this year at 10 wks. I bleed for 3 wks then was put in hospital and given medication to try and bleed all the left over tissue out. In May I still was testing +ve and still hadn't had a period, I paid to see a private specialist who did a scan and thought I might have had a molar pregnancy - luckily I didn't, but I had a lot of retained pregnancy tissue. (I had to go private as both my midwife and GP kept telling me to just wait, your periods may take a year to return to normal!!) Anyway, the specialist did D&C and I concieved again the month after. Day 34 after period I miscarried, didn't even know I was pregnant till the mc. Then another possibly mc in Aug - but not confirmed by blood test. I do not have regular cycles, ie 28 days between and period for 7 days, then 34 days between and period for 3 days! So I cant work out when I ovulate. thislast month I was sure I was preg - I've never had period symptoms before, so when I got tingly nipples, achy ovary etc I thought - bingo preg. It had been 36 days since last period which is the longest Ihave ever been - did blood test, -ve and period arrived yesterday! Gutted! Anyway, the specialists I am seeing (privately) has done all the blood tests and everything is normal. My hubby even did sperm test and normal. From tonight (day 2 of period) I am starting on 50mg of clomid and take 1 tab for the next 5 days. Next thur I have blood tests and scan and see if I am ready to ovulate and if the little follicals are there. So I am excited that I kinda feel I am heading in the right direction. But this last year has been such an emotional rollarcoaster and there have been sooo many tears. Like you I and my hubby dont have family around, only my Mum who is very ill so we havent mentioned anything. I have friends who have had no problem having kids, or friends that have never tried, so noone knows what we are going through. I am sick of being told - stop thinking about it, it will happen wen the time is right, do this, do that...etc I know it is all said with the best of intentions, but at the end of the day your baby is lost and it hurts. also everyone else seems to be ringing me to say they are preg!! My brother just had his first so any family functions now all revolves around their baby - no thought for us!! Hence we havent told people we are still trying and seeing fertility specialists. I also exercise - alot! Endurance sport. I wondered if this had anything to do with mc/not concieving, but spec said no. Once I get a +ve (if) then I plan to stop - as dont want any more mc. At least now I am on clomid I will be tested early to see if preg, because the last couple of mc I didnt even know I was preg. I am taking folic acid and baby asprin 100mg which the specialist said wouldn't hurt to take. Dont really drink but do have a bit of cafine which I am trying to stop! Sorry for the long post and even though I cant give any advice on what works - just wanted to let you know that I have been through similiar and any questions I will answer what I can. Likewise if you have any luck let me know. Are you seeing a specialist? Have they talked about clomid to you? I'll let you know how it goes. Best wishes for both of us!   

Hi Dotty, have you tried a Natural Fertility clinic? Naturopaths who specialise in fertility look for things modern medicine doesn't and takes into account results that modern medicine often over looks as being insignificant. I can't recommend highly enough trying this rout can be. If you live in Auckland I can give you a good number to contact. PM me if your interested.

I've also had several mc and think Vitex helped this one stick (so far!), and also B6 is meant to be very good. I've also rested excessively and done no BD after my BFP and no lifting, sleeping lots, folic acid etc.

Might just be an old wives tale to rest u but I don't care. It's helped me and even if it is just pyschological then that's fine

Oh and *totally* agree if you get any cramping or spotting etc...get yourself seen immediately. Doesn't ness mean you are gonna mc.

Good luck!

Hi Ladies, thanks for all the advice and life experiences! it really helps me learn a wee bit more. I am under a good specialist, had all the tests for blood clotting, progesterone etc everything is normal. Am being monitored on my ovulation at present so I know when in my cycle it occurs. Also been seeing a Naturopath (thanks tracey!) for the last six weeks or so and doing everything she has advised.

I know it is probs just life and next time I should just ignore it and hopefully it will stick, but I know I won't as I can't risk another one. I know it is an old wives tale but I am even not going to ride my horse as soon as I know either, I just don't want to tempt fate!

Bree - I know what you mean about people saying "relax , it will happen when its meant to" I know they are only being nice but they are the ones it hasn't happened to!

Dotty.x

Hi Guys, Had ovulation test over the last week, I apparently ovulated on Saturday according to specialist. Have been getting a few funny pains like a pinching pain, not a cramp, about 3 or so inches below belly button starting today. Hope specialist got it right and I did ovualate on saturday, as hubby is a bit worn out at present!!

Fingers crossed the pain could be something else, but have learned not to get hopes up these days!