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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:15am |
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to breastfeed your baby? Just wondering how people feel about it. Also wondering whether there is any correlation between the way that people DO feed their babies and how they feel about others feeding them. Eg. Are bottle feeders more likely to think that others nursing your baby has the yuck factor?
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:30am |
LOL! Nobody game enough to post? 
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:32am |
Yep, I would.
There was a thread on wet-nursing awhile ago which got me thinking about it and I decided I'd be happy for my baby to be wet nursed or given EBM from another mother if I was unable to feed it for some reason.
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:33am |
 WigglesFan wrote:
LOL! Nobody game enough to post? |
*snorts* maybe we're all just too busy 
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:50am |
Probably not wet-nursed but would be happy with EBM.
Was talking to a MW about this recently - apparently under WHOs baby friendly guidelines, they are meant to promote wet nursing/other person's EBM over formula feeding.
ETA - I wouldn't want wet nursing cos I see BF as something that promotes the bond b/w mum and baby. I don't think I would cope watching Daniel have that close a relationship with someone else. I'm a BFer, BTW. And what kind of MIL do you think I would make
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:56am |
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What about as a once off. Say hypothetically, your sister was looking after your kids and your baby finished all their EBM or wouldn't bottle-feed?
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:57am |
Probably not to "wet nurse" but feeding EBM would be fine. My mum's milk when i was born was used to feed the prem babies in teh hospital as she had so much.
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:58am |
Flissty wrote:
Probably not wet-nursed but would be happy with EBM.
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ETA - I wouldn't want wet nursing cos I see BF as something that promotes the bond b/w mum and baby. I don't think I would cope watching Daniel have that close a relationship with someone else. |
This is how I think as well
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 11:58am |
 no, i would prefer my baby to have either my own breast milk via breast or ebm and if i couldnt then formula.
it seems a bit icky to me- i know what i eat etc.. and my general health- cant control someone elses diet etc...
my dad was wet nursed and my hubby was too- my mum raised on the farm was given cows milk cause her mum couldnt feed!!
i wouldnt want to fed my neice or nephew, would seem waaaaaaaaay to weird
BUT in saying all that, if there was a major disaster and something happened to anyone and a baby needed feeding (including my own) so life or death yeah it would be ok.
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 12:03pm |
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Wet nursing was once common practice amongst the upper classes in England, before the advent of formula, I think with the ability to express, its not necessary to provide a wet nurse service, and yes I'd be happy to give EBM from another mother over formula if I wasn't able to bf myself for some reason.
Don't have a sister, and agree with it being the mum's role to feed her baby however she can, not someone else.
I'm aware this is done in other cultures, but not ours.
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 12:14pm |
don't know if I could be comfortable with someone else feeding Ella, but EBM is fine.
But if she was a newborn and if I had a sister who could BF her and it was a once off then I wouldn't have a problem with it.
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 12:17pm |
Okay, here's my perspective,,,,
...if I had a baby who for some reason or another wouldn't take EBM or formula from a bottle or sippy cup AND if I had a sister who was also nursing, I would have no hesitation giving her permission to nurse if necessary.
Why?
Because I couldn't bear to think of my baby upset and desperate for the comfort of the breast and know that I am denying what he needs because I feel uncomfortable with it.
My boys have all been picky feeders and I have never been successful at getting them to drink EBM or formula as anything but a novelty. So dh and I just don't go out. 
Of course neither of my sisters are breastfeeding currently and they both live at the opposite end of the country to me!
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 1:07pm |
For me, its not even something I would consider. BF is an amazing bonding experience between mother and child. I would not want anyone other than me to ever nurse my child.
Same goes for EBM. Nope. Formula would be the only option I would consider if I was unable to BF. You still get to bond with your baby when bottle feeding, can still gaze into their eyes etc etc.
Only my opinion of course
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 1:11pm |
Yes I would give my sister or a close friend if she was nursing at the time the permission if she was comfortable with it.
When Lesieli was a year old and I was still BF my aunty had a baby and asked me if I would breastfeed her baby if it woke up while she was out. It was a newborn, I declined as I didnt feel comfotable having another baby feeding off my nipple but I was also 18years old at the time. MAybe I would be different if asked now I dont know, but really I dont see anything wrong with it for others.
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 1:11pm |
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I think I would happily let my sister BF my baby if I couldn't. And vice versa.
Definitely if it were just a one off, I'd much prefer that to my child being hungry and upset.
With regard to wet nursing, I would be sad that I couldn't do it, but very grateful that my child was getting the benefits of breastmilk from someone who I trusted and who had a strong relationship with them.
I agree that feeding your child is a very close bonding thing, but when I think about how happy both my kids were whenever Daddy walked in, despite not having the boobies, I think our bond would still be strong.
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 1:14pm |
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I should add, the thought of anyone who isn't as close to me as my sister feeding my child makes me feel very cringey and icky.
My MIL used to go on about wishing she could breastfeed Ella and it made me want to keep Ella well away from her, just in case!
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 1:28pm |
caraMel wrote:
My MIL used to go on about wishing she could breastfeed Ella and it made me want to keep Ella well away from her, just in case! |
  I dont blame you, I would want to keep her away too
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 1:42pm |
yep i wounld we as in my sis and me have talked about it and iff we could we would
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 1:46pm |
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umm i think expressed is fine but not breastfeeding unless it was a situation where its was a very close family memeber and bub had finished what they had or wouldn't take it it also had to be a one time thing too.
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Posted: 16 October 2008 at 1:58pm |
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This is a good question!! I was just thinking the other way around too - would I BF my niece/nephew? I don't think I could due to the bond thingy - it's too intimate for me but would feed EBM from bottle no worries.
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