Expectant waiting - for how long?

Hi MBandbub,
Sorry about your miscarriage. I had my fingers crossed for you on the march 10 thread even before I realised my baby had died too.

I just had my D&C today but have been told it could take days or even weeks for everything to clear out. For me, I really wanted an element of closure and feel a lot emotionally better now I've had it. But remember everything is differen.t

The EPAU in Auckland was really the paperwork factory for me so can't help that much as I had the rest of the miscarriage work (bloods and scan) done in Australia.

TMI- Even with the op I still managed to pass a fist-sized clot this afternoon

Thanks so much Sasha and Lemongirl x

I phoned the hosp today and got an appt with the EPAU Midwife on mon to talk about my options - things are still progressing pretty slowly which at the moment I am ok with but I certainly hear what you're saying Sasha re carrying longer than 2 more weeks (especially as it seems my preg sac is still keeping up with what should have been gest. age so my tummy is still growing!).

Hope you're doing ok Lemongirl - As Sasha said, is such a sad time (and NOT fair!!)

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massive hugs to you...i found out 4 weeks later and had DandC five days after that as four weeks is a long time and they were already worried about infection and I really hated feeling in limbo as well:( hugs to you over this sad time:(

Well, had hosp appt yesteray and have opted to wait for another week, as in Waikato you can only wait or have d&c and my bod doesn't react well to GAs so want to avoid that if I can. Am still happy waiting (happy being a relative term!!) but all fam have gone home today so house is very quiet as on own now. Can call people if need to but felt I didn't want everyone putting their life on hold to supervise me 'just in case'. Bub's father hasn't even been to see me yet grrrr.

hugs about the dad that's really hard:(

travel- yeah i was the same.. I've had both and found natural way worse.. as I didn't want to pass baby at home .:(

anyway hugs hope in your case you don't end up having a GA!

Thanks so much everyone - Travelbug am so sorry you're having to go through this again. Foureyes, Yay for week 17!!

And thanks,Jo for your post. That's very sweet - for me the sleeping is getting easier but only recently so hope the same goes for you soon and you manage to have a relaxing time in Aus and be pampered outrageously by your family.

So far am doing fine both physically and emotionally. Think it feels ok as I know that there is absolutely nothing I could have done differently to change outcome - am more sad when I think this could have been my only chance (unless I miraculously find a lovely caring reliable bloke who still wants kids in the next year or so!). Fam have all gone home but lots of texts and mum calls twice a day so that's nice! Still only really light bleeding so am thinking this could go on for a while before my body fully catches on! Will just play it by ear though - I know I can always change my mind if I want to, and thought I would ask the hosp mw if there're any natural things that might speed things along seeing medical management isn't an option here in the Waikato.
Bub's father is apparently coming over tomorrow afternoon - he is very clever leaving it this long as I have run out of steam and now just can't be bothered. Will see how things go but think he's going to get off lightly which isn't fair either! Maybe I should sic some of my adults nephews on him!!