loss affecting future pregnancies?

did your future pregnancies get affected by your mc's? I have really only realised recently that my anxiety (apart from the ocd) stemmed a lot from worrying about losing Ethan both during the pregnancy and really for about a year 18 months afterwards...i knew at the time it wasnt real worry(like intuition) but it seemed very real to me.. and because initially they said i was at risk of pre term labour(due to the cells i have but now they say i am low risk) i worried incessantly with this baby too... i am starting to relax now though having more sore bits with this pregnancy didnt help cause that worried me all the time but now bubs is 'viable' i think i have relaxed a little..and I have been put on PND meds which has also helped a great deal...

anyway people think i should be 'over' the loss of the babies and everytime people say 'feb what a crazy time to have a baby' and i have to say well we did lose two august babies..we did try to have them at different times of the year' then i feel a little sad.. the first loss was a massive shock(found out at scan) and really i think it all stems from that..

although i know it 'happened for a reason' ugh i still hate that saying but Dh was like well it is true even though we didnt want to hear it.. i still wish i could be one of those people who loves pregnancy and relaxes.. I guess it also didnt help that E had an APGAR of 3 when he was born that worried me even more.. ! anyway am i alone in thinking like this?

I havent had a subsequent pregnancy yet but when I do I can imagine I will worry myself sick about everything.

Pook72 wrote: I tested last night and I just shook, very scared but have to learn to relax! It's natural to worry I think? I wish I could sleep fopr the next 8 weeks! Two baby angels

Congratulations!! Wishing you a sticky baby and a safe pregnancy!

I keep telling myself if/when I have a subsquent pregnancy I'm going to try and work off the 'first pancake' principle.

You see I make awesome buttermilk pancakes almost every weekend. But no matter what I do, I always seem to screw up that first pancake (and sometimes second and third). The rest of the batch is always awesome just something about that first pancake which always gets screwed up.

However I totally get why you would be anxious about the next pregnancy. Just breathe deep and think how much of miracle your baby is when you first hold him in your arms.

Ps Huge congratulations Pook, I hope your pancake turns out great

kate- yeah true.. i am very attached to him but i think that makes it worse sometimes?

pook-best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!

lemon girl yeah i can look at Ethan(who was inbetween losses) and think how wonderful it can be...but i guess i have trouble thinking about that far ahead!:)

i get the pancake thing but i really loved that first pancake!! and the third! :)

Bizzy, did you do anything different with your viable pregnancies (bedrest/progesterone/etc) or was it just the way it turned out?

kebakat.. yeah i realise we are all different..but sometimes i wish i could think like you in that way ... i wonder why it still affected me so much?i guess the PND and depression wasnt helping..

bizzy- yeah it is a PITA:( !

yeah i have followed you for a long while kicker and so glad everything is going well..i cant imagine what two missed mc is like!!:( (congrats on the girl!) people keep telling me to relax and I guess i feel like slapping them and saying I'm trying:)!

did you do the bedrest bizzy?

all my american friends get prog tested and given stuff if its too low.. doesnt seem that common for testing here?:(