Fatal dangers of cold sores to newborns

No problem. It's still making me tear up tho.

This story really effected me. I don't get cold sores but my sister does, and without getting tested for the virus I have no idea if I had antibodies. It kept me up with wondering how well know this was so I had to post it.

Wow thanks for posting this! But so sad at the same time. I tend to get coldsore a lot *sigh* run down or not. Had a few whilst pregnant but might as mw bout it at next appointment...

I think if you have regular cold sores you already have antibodies that you will pass to bubs?? Not 100% sure how that works.

HUNTD wrote: bring on the herpes lol

Given the subject being discussed, a baby dying, that's a little bit insensitive in the way it comes across.

I know that Charlotte is aware of these discussions and is very hurt, having been accused of being a hoaxer and seeing people joking about herpes.

She's pleased that the person here has passed on her story as she wants to raise awareness but she is a real person behind the story and still grieving for her beautiful daughter.

And Charlotte, if you come back and read this, sorry for butting in but I can't see you hurt without speaking out about it. ((((hugs))))

I agree Blondy.

JodyR this is defiantly one of the more friendly and sensitive baby sites out there. Most of us have been chatting here for a long time and know that none of the comments here were made to offend. I can understand if you personally know the poor woman that lost her child why you would be sensitive to any comments made about her situation but I think if you spent some time on this site getting to know the woman that are chatting you would understand that we are all just people chatting about something extremely scary.
Please don't take offense I think it is extremely unfair and tragic what has happened. I also think it is very brave and noble thing that this courageous woman is spreading her story so that others are more aware.



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This is very very sad.
I don't know enough about coldsores to be giving any 'medical' type opinions but thought I would also say that a friends baby wasn in hospital last year with viral meningitis and she was told that it was possible it could have been from someone with a coldsore kissing him.

JodyR no one was accused of being a hoax or a fake, the question was simply asked which that person had a right to do. You can't tell people off for being wary on the internet given the weirdos out there; as you have said this is an open forum. As for providing evidence if you think someone is a fake (referring to post in first baby section also), it's just as important if you are trying to get your story out.

I really am truly sorry for this family but you can't put an international ban on humour or sit there monitoring all forums in case someone makes a joke. As previously mentioned yes this is an open forum but it's also an online community and if you had bothered to get a feel for this site and the people on it before telling people off you would see that no harm was meant and it was people that 'know' each other having a conversation.

Well said Aprilfools!

I have actually emailed Charlotte and told her that our online community is very close and that no offence was intended by any comments made. I linked to this thread on her group as I felt she had a right to know I had posted her story.

I know your all good people and I loves you all

Thanks everyone for your replies to me, I know I am a stranger to your group and such it must feel a bit startling for you all to have me suddenly appear and tell you my friend is upset by two of the people who have commented in these posts.

Blondy I thank you for your comments to me, it was suggested on the other thread that Charlotte may be a hoaxer and she was very upset to read that, as were her friends because we know that sadly she is very genuine.

Lisa85 thank you also, I know things come across very differently when you know the person who is saying them and also the same thing when written down can be read differently by the people who read it. As an established group I can see how you already know each other and judge how a comment was intended.

Aprilfools yes people do have a right to question what they believe on the internet and I do advise caution but it was suggested Charlotte was a hoaxer and sadly she isn't and she was hurt to see that written on here. Charlotte and myself are both members of a bereavement site where caution is advised and any concerns can be quietly reported to admin, which saves upsetting genuine people while also weeding out any fakes. But the person who questioned Charlotte's validity also stated that her baby could have died from anything, casting doubt on the post mortem evidence when she had no reason to do so. Charlotte is raising awareness and I am certain she would have answered any questions raised to her by anyone who had doubts about the facts of her story.

I'm also not trying to put a ban on humour but there is no humour whatsoever in the death of a baby and saying "bring on the herpes lol" is not actually funny when you are entering a discussion about a baby who has died because of the virus.

I am sure that no harm was intended but harm was caused.

WRXandJosh I haven't come on this site and told a bunch of people off, I've told two people that their comments have caused hurt to a woman who is kind and genuine and trying to help others even though she is grieving.

Charlotte has welcomed the discussion and is pleased that most people are taking this so seriously but it has hurt her to see two seperate people cast doubts and make a joke. The majority of people who have commented on this site have been wonderful in their understanding and have taken on board how tragic Charlotte's loss is and how serious a simple cold sore can be.