Invitations to kids birthday’s

it has happened to my girl , and I felt bad for her ,course you do , as parents we think our children are the best kids ever and the idea that they wouldn't be invited somewhere is baffling ,and seeing their little souls being disappointed is heartbreaking for a mother .
Some people may say its rude , but if you are feeling really down about it, maybe just be straight up with the mum and ask her if there is some sort of issue you weren't aware of, she may have simply over looked your invitation , I know i've done that before, forgotten to invite kids .
( or friends,to like, my wedding ....and then I text them a week later telling them off for not coming , oops !)

Now that C is at school , there are plenty of birthdays she doesn't get invited too , but lifes like that, I tell her , there will be parties you don't get asked to , but it just means you have to make sure you have twice as much fun at the parties you do go to.

caitlynsmygirl wrote: Now that C is at school , there are plenty of birthdays she doesn't get invited too , but lifes like that, I tell her , there will be parties you don't get asked to , but it just means you have to make sure you have twice as much fun at the parties you do go to.

Right now Joy is completely oblivious to the situation but what a good way to explain it for when she is older, thanks!

Yep I had thought about the budget scenario....but couldn't help but wonder if there might have been another reason. I won't approach the mum coz I don't want to make her feel bad or make things weird between us (a see her quite a lot during a normal week), so I guess I'll never know the reason.

I guess it also depends on how many other people from your coffee group were invited. If everyone else was, then you are probally not overreacting
If it really bothers you, bring it up casually with the mother in question.

I'd probably feel a bit disappointed too Sunnyhoney - it's not nice to see your child being excluded from something, even if there's a perfectly legitimate reason like budget etc. I think all mums worry about their kids being socially accepted and making friends etc.

We were on the reverse side of the dilemma last year - Maya wanted to have her birthday party at Rainbow's End so I had to strictly limit the number of friends she could invite. She's got a friend who has been at every one of her birthday parties so far, even her first, but she decided not to invite him coz "he's a boy" . I did give the mum a call tho and explain the situation so she wouldn't feel that they were being left out for some other reason.