having a 3rd

Kinda off subject, but i keep umming and ahhing about another altho technically my 4th but since my eldest lives with his dad and is a teenager it would be like 3.......and I just cant get past the whole 3s a crowd thing. I like the dynamics even numbers gives. where as the odd thing means that someone is going to get left out. Esp when you already have one of each flavour.......so you will always end up with two and then one that will be left out.........i know plenty of people have 3 but i just wonder how FAIR it really is on the odd one out or the middle child.........I grew up with 4 of us, and we got paired up in two eldest and two youngest (atlho technically i was closer to the eldest by 1yr and the youngest was 4yrs my junior which i thought was unfair).......but it was 2 girls and two boys also so we could pair up like that also............

Anyway I know i wont get past DH on having another one anyway so i shouldnt worry myself with details.............but thats just my out loud thinking for you, which doesnt answer your question in any way shape or form........but at least you have one reply

Mine only wanted 1 - absolutely no more at all. But then he decided he wanted another pretty soon after we had Gabrielle - I was UTD again when she was 6 months. For now we have our hands very full with our two but when they are older we will probably have another one. I know I could twist his arm lol.

My DH wanted 3 and now hes saying two is enough.   I wanted two, then 3 and now I'm thinking its too hard to have another. We have been changing our minds constantly but are pretty sure we'll stop at 2 now. (hehe, 95% sure anyway)

DP was adamant that 1 was enough for him (DS is not his biologically, and he missed the first 2 years)... but hes backed off after seeing how much fun Jaelyn is, and is happy to have one more, I was one of 2 for most of my childhood (little brother didnt arrive until I was 16) And I would have liked another sibling to hang out with when my sister was being a PITA lol!

Essentially we are looking at the classic 2.5 kids and the whte picket fence lol (except ours is brown )

Yes mine said only 2 and I bugged him for a while to have the 3rd. Now I have had some major surgery he wants to have a 3rd and now I have said no.

Kali1 - my DH is wanting to get snip but im leaving it up to him to organise etc........and Im leaving the rest up to chance and still taking every precaution not to get pregnant but if one happen accidentally (and both me and DH would be aware of any accidents i wouldnt do it on purpose sneakily IYGWIM)........So i kinda hope that i will be telling the same story one day down the track......

Men are funny aren't they Kate?

Chickielou the accidents that are really accidents are best, I could never have done 'accidentally on purpose' though heaps of people suggested it! It got so worked up when I found out I was because I thought he was going to flip but he was fine! There really is no predicting how a bloke will respond to a situation.

lurker,
do you mean one more after the one you are going to ttc for from June kelly(caitlynsmygirl)

DH was fairly sure 2 was enough and now that our whoopsie is on the way he told me the other day that he, 'hasn't ruled out another'! Which is actually kind of cool as I'd been thinking of a fourth recently too!