Worst ex husband ever

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A woman gives birth to triplets. The doctor lacerated her uterus and she starts to bleed. Her heart stops for 20 minutes, leaving her with brain damage and unable to walk or speak.

The response of her husband was to divorce her in 2008 and refuse to let her see their three children. Oh and he's also suing her for child support despite already recieving a cash settlement.

Jerk.

there are things i would like to say about that man but there arent enough sumbols on my computer to cover up everything i want to say. how coul he honestly leave her when she needs him the most, takes the kids then wants child support. that is just disgusting.

WTF?!!

You know what I am not going to say this guy is a jerk. Yip I think (based on what I read in the article) that it is more on the wrong side for him to ask for money from the estate for child care ect. But how do we know what cost he has to cover. What sort of job does he have ect? Did he get any compensation for his wife that was left damaged? When they planned or even not planned but when this happened and they got pregnant with triplets they had two people capable of taking care of the kids.

Take it she was working then it is more income. If not then the kids didnt have to go in childcare. 3 kids in childcare is a lot and to lose another income is a lot too.

Now next thing. Him not wanting the kids to see their mother. What do we know what he is thinking. He could be very well protect them at such a young age. I mean take this. How must these kids feel one day realising their birth caused their mother to be like this (I know I know not their fault but how would they feel about that.) Maybe he really truly doesnt know how it will affect them so he puts his head in the sand.

As for the grandparents. Perhaps with them fighting so much this guy fights for the other side even harder and eventually it becomes more of the battle than the actual reason why they were doing this in the beginning.

I really truly feel for this mom. But I feel for the Dad too. I think sometimes it is just way too easy to read one article and think we have all the answers and judge these people. We are not in the situation and sometimes I think just a bit of compassion.

I'm a little surprised by myself, but I agree with SMoody too.
Initially I thought "What kind of heartless b@stard could do that to his wife?"
But thinking more on it, the poor guy essentially lost his wife (the person she was) and was left with 3 babies.
His inlaws were obviously very strongly involved in the decisions that were made with regard to the care of his wife and he had his hands more than full caring for the triplets on his own.
They are his first children and we know how consuming caring for just one newborn is, especially the first time. Imagine doing it with 3 whilst grieving for your wife and trying to manage the day to day stuff too.
I can see how it would all just be too much and letting his wife go, knowing she was in the capable care of her family might seem like the best choice at the time.
I don't know how I feel about the claims for child support from her estate, but again, I can see how desperate the situation might get as a single parent with 3 children in childcare. Sometimes you've got to do whatever it takes for your kids, even if it means being the bad guy.

I'm not saying I would make the same choices if it were me in his shoes, but I can definitely see another side to it than the cold-hearted, rapacious, jerk the articles paint him as.

Hrmmm, I don't think he is THAT bad, but I don't think he should be suing her estate for child support. For crying out loud, the woman needs 24/7 care for the rest of her life (which may be another 40-50 years) and that will be a phenomenal amount of money. She is in her current situation BECAUSE of her children (not saying it's her children's fault at all!!) so after everything she went through with pregnancy, the birth, what state she is in now and the one thing she achieved out of it all has been taken away from her. He won't even send videos?!?! That, IMO, is heartless. Fine, he doesn't want to explain to the children, I understand that, but he has no right whatsoever to deprive her of seeing her children, because no matter what he thinks and how hard his life may be now, she is, and always will be, those children's mother.

This particular statement stood out to me -

Dorn's attorney, Vicki J. Greene, responded that he "wants to be the one to parent the children and tell them at an appropriate age the proper details of their life. From our perspective, he gets to make the decisions. He's the father."

Well, you know what, she may be incapable of making any decisions about their welfare, but she's the mother. I agree that it may not be in the children's best interests to see their mother....but it may well be in the mother's best interests to be able to see HER children, even if only in videos taken of the children.

Jazzy....you wrote this....

I would hate to be in his position & as a mother I feel for her, but I have had my kids from birth so would hate not to have contact with them...but she has not so the decisions should be his, after all he did not create the situation..he did not walk out on her pg or was abusive to her or leave her with 3 kids...he is just a guy that got dealt a rotten hand & is trying to do the best for him & his kids.

She did not create the situation either, and got dealt just as rotten a hand as he did, if not worse.

After that novel.....I tend to lean more towards the mother's side, but I don't think the father is as bad as all that...I just think he needs to have more compassion towards the "love of his life" because he's punishing her for something she had no control over.

What a horrible situation.

My one comment would actually be, why should the Father have to sue for child support? Surely, at the end of the day there were 3 chidren born into this marriage and if the grandparents were awarded 7.8 million for her care, surely part of that would be put towards caring and supporting her children, regardless of who is raising them? the fact that he has to sue for support implies that he was left with 3 children to raise on his own with no support from his wifes family?? TBH I dont really blame him for being a jerk to her parents if that is the case. I wonder also if he feels he can act like this because he believes his ex-wife to be unaware of anything around her, therefore he doesn't believe he is hurting her?

I would have to say refusing to video the children seems a little over the top when it could be so easy.

SophieD wrote: What a horrible situation. My one comment would actually be, why should the Father have to sue for child support? Surely, at the end of the day there were 3 chidren born into this marriage and if the grandparents were awarded 7.8 million for her care, surely part of that would be put towards caring and supporting her children, regardless of who is raising them? the fact that he has to sue for support implies that he was left with 3 children to raise on his own with no support from his wifes family?? TBH I dont really blame him for being a jerk to her parents if that is the case. I wonder also if he feels he can act like this because he believes his ex-wife to be unaware of anything around her, therefore he doesn't believe he is hurting her? I would have to say refusing to video the children seems a little over the top when it could be so easy.

Totally agree, well said.

oh good I am so pleased iwas not the only one that felt sorry for the dad from what i read it seem's that her parents are the problem.

What a sad awful situation , for everyone involved .
I feel for all of them , the whole things just horrible .