Feeling rubbish

Hi,

I am just struggling a bit so far (early days too)

Main main issue is nausea, its incredibly strong pretty much 24 hours a day, it does stop, briefly but not for long and its wearing me down.

So then I feel really tired and I don't know if thats just pregnancy tired or because I permanently feel sick.

Just feeling a bit down, as have very busy job, then come home to very busy toddler, who i'm just not enjoying as much as I feel so crappy - which then makes me sad.

Is there anything i can do that might help, or do I just need to patiently wait until the magic 12 week mark and hope it gets better.

It is really hard dealing with this, I was the same at 7 weeks. I tried all sorts of things like sea bands etc and they didn't help so it was frustrating. I didn't throw up but that constant car sick feeling was awful.

Barley sugars!!! Have them around when you need an energy hit. Also eat as often as you can, nice filling things to get that nausea at bay. I used to eat pies if I had to because that's what helped me get through. I felt guilty but if thats what was going to work, I did it. I listened to my cravings and that seemed to help. Im not suggesting do that all your pregnancy but in those tough weeks I did it.

Nap whenever you can, when I got home from work I just lay down and had a sleep. If I fell asleep in front of the tv at night I took that as a sign and went to bed.

Ask for help. Ask DH/DP to help you in any way he can, if he can do the dinner or the dishes or washing or whatever, let him do everything possible. Explain to him how you feel and that you're not coping.

Have cuddles with your boy as much as you can, even if mummy has to take a nap maybe he can take a nap with you. Just a lie down or story together might be a nice way to spend time without getting stressed.

Is it possible to take a few days leave from work to just relax and recharge a bit? Sick leave even? I was lucky I got school holidays (Im a teacher) when I was going through that otherwise I would have found it very hard.

I hope it gets better soon. It is one of those awful things about being pregnant, I was really miserable weeks 6-9 but I did start to improve and now I feel pretty normal most of the time. You can do it.

I basically functioned for work hours only with C, DH stepped in so much which was good. I had sea bands, ate an apple every morning & tried to keep really busy & really focused so that I wouldn't dwell on the ms

I had the same thing- for over 14 weeks... and it has recently come back!!! when I was working my doc precribed metaclopromide which was amazing.. and really stopped me from getting too depressed.

That and the sea bands together were the best things for me... it takes a while to get them in the right spot though.. you have to play around until you get it right! Just make sure they are in between the tendons in your wrist.. once i finally got them in THE SPOT they were magic.. and helped through the night...

The exhaustion is depressing too... the first scan makes you feel a lot better!

definitely talk to your midwife about it, they may have some great suggestions. metaclopramide is awesome for nausea, try ginger and sea bands.

just hugs from me and know that you are not alone.

I don't have any great advice sorry, just sympathy as I feel like cr@p for the first 20-odd weeks with this pregnancy and it is HARD with a toddler! I've been v lucky having home help and also DH picking up a lot of the slack - getting up in the mornings (and at night if necessary) so I can take my time getting up etc and giving C his meals so I can stay away from food

I was talking to a girlfriend about it the other day and she has a 9mo and a 3yo. She said her DS watched a lot of DVDs in the first few months of her pregnancy as she couldn't get out of bed and had noone around who could help out. They used to lie in bed together to watch DVDs in the morning - snuggle time and feet up time for her!

I found I was so fickle with food this time, couldn't face anything in the mornings at all (mostly coz it all came back an hour later which put me off eating it again!) so would just drink a big mug of hot water slowly and then have breakfast later in the morning, usually peanut butter or tomato on toast.

Good luck hun, hope the tiredness and nausea doesn't linger too long so you can start enjoying your pregnancy and also start enjoying your wee boy again too!