Found out that Pregnant - Mixed emotions?

hi littlet,

firstly congratulations! hooray your having a baby!

i think a lot of ladies in the same or similar situations have felt very much the way you do.. while i was absolutely overjoyed after trying, its natural for some doubts to creep in, reality can be a bit different to our dreams so we can soemtimes focus on the negative things a wee bit too much,,,...

i was very worried about things not working out for me and my pregnancy, and have had to work hard on my 'self talk' lol and telling myself things will be fine and thinking rationally, as well as allowing myself to rationalise some of those thoughts which do make sense, can we afford it? will my body cope? how will i feel with the baby in my arms? what if i dont bond? what if something goes wrong?

i think as time goes by you can realise that this will be the most wonderful thing you ever acomplished in your life and each day that you are pregnant is a milestone and should be met with joy :)

just remember its a time of huge change, and you will feel better as time goes on.. you have a few months to prepare yourself so dont expect that you will have all your emotions about whats going on sorted right away , you have time to prepare emotionally..

take care and be kind to yourself, its normal to worry about things, and to worry about worrying lol.. plus you can always come on here and share your concerns with us, lots of peopel will be able to relate :)

Totally understand LittleT, almost happened exactly the same for me too! Had buttoned off trying because didn't want a summer baby, then lo and behold, I was pregnant! So half felt happy, and half felt freaked out and scared! Cried the weekend after I found out! I promise you it will pass, I am really excited now, which I have felt like this for the past 6 weeks, but it does take some getting used to. Especially with all those hormones running round, the initial mornign sickness and all that stuff. As well with worrying about everything - and the worry changes as you get further along - right now I am worrying about when our wee girl turns the age where we have to start disciplining her and I worry I am going to be too much of a softie hahaha! I worried in the beginning because I wasn't expecting to be preg and had still been drinking wine - in fact the weekend before had had rather alot! A number of people I know (with perfectly healthy children) had done exactly the same too so I feel reassured all is fine.
Just trust that this time must be right for you and go with the flow, and allow yourself to feel some excitement as well - but expect it to get better, esp after you pass the 12 week mark!
Congratulations!

I was the same. After trying for 9 months, I had just decided to give up for a while and concentrate on other things, and then it happened (don't even know how as we weren't really trying that month and I was sick around ovulation so I don't remember doing the deed haha).

After so long trying and so many tears at negative pregnancy tests each month, I thought when I got pregnant I would jump for joy. But when I got that positive test it seemed really surreal, I couldn't believe it, it took me weeks to believe it actually and even now a few weeks off having the baby I still don't really believe it lol. It complicated matters a lot because I had just started a new job, so I was nervous about the reaction I would get from them, and nervous about whether now was the right time to have a baby, what people would think, etc.

Then you start worrying about the scans and keeping the baby, then kicks, then everything else lol

It's not easy but the best way is to take each day as it comes and just ride through the journey whatever you feel. It goes in stages, sometimes you're happy, sometimes you're scared, sometimes you feel just not ready, then sometimes you're just so excited about it it hurts. I think it's all part of the process and allow yourself to worry if you need, but not too much. Try to balance it out with what is good about it :) it will all sink in in time.

Congratulations and best of luck for your pregnancy :) you have no control over what happens from here on in really so just enjoy the ride hehe

LittleT I realised that too the other day hehe :) really glad it's all happened for you and don't worry about how you're feeling, it's all normal and you will go through a lot of feelings in this process. But it's all worth it in the long run :) when I was talking to you back then I thought it would never happen for me so it's cool to think it really did hehe :)