Miscarraige after IVF

Didn't want to read and run, so so sorry for you loss dannigirl, its so heartbreaking to get so close and then have it snatched away from you, words can't describe just how unfair it is.

I hope you are coping as best as possible, feel free to pm me if you want someone to talk to you. Unfort I can relate to your pain

Hi dannigirl,

Sorry to hear about your loss. I wish there was more i could say then that to make things better but know that you are not alone and venting/crying and all other emotions are normal and each persons deals with things there own way.

I can say that DH and I were in you same place not too long ago. We had our first transfer in May but got a BFN. In November we had our first FET and got the BFP. Was so excited cried etc. We went into our 6 weeks scan and was told that things were not looking good and to come back in a week to see if there had been any development. We were crushed. We found out a week later that we had a missed miscarrage.

That was the end of November. We were given the advice to what for a natural miscarriage which did happen second week into Jan.

After 2 weeks of solid bleeding (sorry for TMI) we went back in for a scan to find out we needed a D and C. That was at the end of Jan.

A month on we are still coming to turns with everything. I think at this point I am mad as hell to be honest. But I am trying to use that energy for good. Trying to lose weight and gearing up for the next round of IVF/ICIS in April.

I second all of what you said Rooella!!

Baby dust for you for this time around....it will be your year.

Up to 3am this morning with cramping, bleeding worse today sorry if TMI. When will this end, just want to get back to normal life.

Hi dannigirl, I'm so sorry to read about your miscarriage. It must be so heart breaking to go through IVF and then lose your precious baby. I am so sorry you have had to go through this. I hope you have lots of love and support around you at the moment.
My experience(s) are different to yours as I can fall pregnant naturally but as you can see from my signature, I've been through this 4 times....and still dont have any children. I have not been able to get past 7 weeks with any of my pregnancies, I'm actually just going through my 4th miscarriage now. I saw a heartbeat with my 3rd pregnancy and thought all would be well, I was absoultely gutted when I they told me at 9 weeks that my baby had died even though the heartbeat was there at 7w2d. I had a D&C and it took me a long time to work through it. I was angry and bitter at the world - I'm surprised I didn't ruin our marriage. It wasn't until I sat down with a counceller in Nov last year and he simply told me that what had happened wasn't mine or my husbands fault (over and over) I was able to work through my feelings. 2 months later I was pregnant again....but unfortunately things didn't work out this time either. I feel ok at the moment, sad and confused as to why we have to go through this crap but dealing with everything. I am seeing a specialist now and I am positive that they can help us achieve our dream of being parents.
Dont give up, you will get there and you will be a Mum one day. For some reason some of us have a longer and harder road to travel down than others. I have no doubt in my heart that all the pain and suffering that we go through will be worth it in the end.
You take care and look after yourself. Take each day as it comes and dont be too hard on yourself. I wish you all the luck in the world that everything turns out ok in the end.
x