The "seeing what happens" girls

I guess this is the most appropriate thread to join.

As, fact is, I am supposed to be getting my tubes tied in about 3 wks. So I wasn't trying. And we were using condoms, as I'm on no contraception. But DF decided to stop using them for some reason this month.

He's under the impression it'd be impossible to get my UTD, as when we were TTC our youngest, his sperm count came back as low. Yet it only took 3 months to get UTD. So clearly, he's not that low in sperm.

I know I ovulated just over a week ago.

For some reason, I think due to pregnant friends and family and friends with newborns. I have become rather clucky lately. Which is so not appropriate, considering I was so set that I want no more babies and was 100% sure about that and getting my tubes tied.

But now I'm freaking out about the op and second guessing my decision.

It's pretty much, if I'm pregnant, that's reality and I'll have another baby. If not, the tubes still get tied I guess.

It's hard to know whether I have symptoms or it's just my body playing tricks on me.

AF isn't due til this coming Saturday. So too early to test.

All I have is, indigestion, flatulence, headaches, tiredness and nausea and thinking some smells are just ick.

Also, bloating, feel lightheaded and easily getting out of breath(as in just running up the stairs) and back pain.

Edited by escadachic - 26 November 2012 at 5:18pm

PorterLou wrote: Still no luck for us - trying to be casual about it still, but then another month goes by and I'm still not. I'm 32 now - does anyone have any suggestions when is a good time to get some help? Our problem could just be that we aren't getting the timing right in consecutive months, but everybody else I know seems to just get UTD at the drop of a hat. If I was to chart, where would I start?

I found for me, when I was TTC in my 30's. Healthy diet helped, cutting out all coffee and caffeine and all alcohol.

As, the months I still drunk alcohol and coffee, no luck. As soon as I gave them both up, next month UTD.

Hi all, so I have been reading through these forums for a couple of weeks now after going off my pill (after 8 years). DF and I have decided that we'll just see how things go and if it happens then it happens, so we're obviously not being careful anymore. Not 10 minutes after registering on this site I got called into a meeting with my boss regarding my work situation. Our receptionist is leaving soon and she isn't going to be replaced so I am getting her workload as well as my own, plus a generous payrise. Now I'm feeling guilty because I know a baby could be a possibility in the near future and could be a real inconvenience for my bosses. A bit unsure what to do now....

Natasha100461 wrote: Hi all, so I have been reading through these forums for a couple of weeks now after going off my pill (after 8 years). DF and I have decided that we'll just see how things go and if it happens then it happens, so we're obviously not being careful anymore. Not 10 minutes after registering on this site I got called into a meeting with my boss regarding my work situation. Our receptionist is leaving soon and she isn't going to be replaced so I am getting her workload as well as my own, plus a generous payrise. Now I'm feeling guilty because I know a baby could be a possibility in the near future and could be a real inconvenience for my bosses. A bit unsure what to do now....

I am a lurker in this thread, but wanted to put my 2c in for your situation. I would put your own needs and plans before your work/boss's needs and wants. This is your WHOLE life you are creating. Your boss can hire more staff. My best friend made a decision regarding babies to suit her work and now wishes she hadn't done that.

PS.. congrats Escadachic (I think!)

Edited by kalika - 02 December 2012 at 9:34am

Hi Natasha

I understand the predicament you're in. I started applying for new jobs 6 months ago, because my role at the time was sending me home tired and in tears most days. We had to have a serious discussion about "what ifs" at that point, as to qualify for full parental leave exceptions etc I'd need at least a year in the new role. However we decided that for my mental state, I needed to change jobs, and it would only mean being careful for the first 4 months. If something happened and a baby came along sooner than expected, then that was great. A friend once said to me you can't plan your life around a baby, because you could pass up opportunities, like this one. If a baby comes along in a couple of months, then thats excellent for you, and your boss will cope. However, it might take 6 months for your body to settle down after being on the pill for so long, so there's no point missing out on extra experience and money, right? Good luck!

Hi MissAngel, welcome in, well done on the last cigarette! Good luck

Oops - lost ticker. I'm still breastfeeding a 12.5 month old...so, my cycles are whack

No probs Spitfire, bit quiet here though!

Yeah, when I was TTC #1 there was much more chit chat...now I feel a bit silly the amount of times I've posted!

All I want is a place to obsess over symptoms, is that so wrong?

To be honest, when we conceived our second (I'd accidentally got pregnant once before with DH, despite taking morning after pill but it ended in m/c) we were very lucky. I started charting, but without temps for one month, the first month I used temps too we got pregnant. But yes, the wait can still make ya crazy. I didn't know much about my cycles then, and my cycles are still wobbly now thanks to breastfeeding etc. Looks like we will start seeing what happens officially in mid June when I return from UK. ie: we might stop using condoms.

Are you charting?

Edited by Reffinej - 15 April 2013 at 4:17pm