Bookworm I'm so sorry that this happened to you
It's tragic and heartbreaking to go through. I'm glad your care has gone well, talking to friends I've found that people's experiences vary widely. On thing I found in the aftermath of my miscarriage is that the word 'miscarriage' is like a password to a secret society. You use it an suddenly people are telling you about experiences you never knew they had. I hope you have people around you to share your grief with.