Baby cries and screams everytime he is put to slee

I have a 13w2d old baby boy who cries, screams and grizzles (often uncontrollably) every time I put him down for a sleep and I am starting to resent him for it and hate sleep time as I know it is just going to be a battle.

I currently swaddle him as he will not go to sleep un-swaddled / half swaddled and he needs his dummy to soothe him to sleep, which to be honest I do not mind.

Our routine looks a bit like this:
Lie on swaddle - starts crying / screaming
Swaddle - continues to cry / scream and will often cry through or spit out dummy
Lift into bed swaddled - continues
Blankets & dummy - continues

From here he will continue sometimes for 2-3 minutes while I try to settle him and will do this when his dummy falls out - can take 5-15mins to actually get him to sleep through settling and his dummy.

I have tried CIO for about 3mins and then couldn't handle it myself so dummied him and he pretty much fell asleep straight away.

Anyway I would love to know if anyone else has had this and found a successful way to get bedtime to be much calmer as I am at a loss and dread this time with him.

Note the only time he gently goes off with no fuss and on his own is after his 5-6am feed when he will babble a bit, grunt a couple of times and quite happily go down even if his dummy falls out.

HELP...

Oh and to top it off he has a 45minute sleep cycle which I can't break so would love to know how to break through that too.

Waterbaby - just lurking here but might be able to help? I was a nanny many years ago and had a baby who had a 45min sleep cycle. I broke it by sneaking in to his room just before the 45min time was up and placing a firm hand on his tummy/back (depending how he was sleeping). I would start rocking him gently as he stirred and he would go back to sleep. I would continue for another 5 mins and then leave him. He would usually sleep for another 45mins to 1 hour. It took longer the first couple of days but by day 4 he stopped stirring. Good luck!

oh Wb, hope things get better for you!

I'm thinking my bub will be the same when we move. ATM I feed him to sleep every time, just because he is little still and our house is not big so if I let him cry too long DF and I get abit over it and its just not pleasant.

Once we move we will likely be in the same boat but at least we will have some space between us and a screaming baby! I know I'm making it harder for later on but its the best solution for us in the short term.

its making me nervous when I read about what you are going through cause I can just imagine myself in the same position in a wee while. I feel for you!

I thought the same as Tishy, grunting is a sign of silent reflux, try raising the head of his bed & also when you lay him down to swaddle, use your pillow to angle him. Hopefully that'll help? My boy had silent reflux and I managed to do what Tan suggested, as he was sleeping in a rocker during the day.