settling to sleep help pls

Are you with Plunket? Going to see them and/or their videos might be a good place to start - I think these things are easier done in person if possible.

When Briona was 6 months we had some real trouble as we had allowed (with the help of silent reflux) her to fall asleep on us every time except by accident Even though your boy is a bit younger, what we did may help.

We would rock her to almost asleep and then when her eyes had just shut we'd lay her in the cot, still patting and singing. I would stay out of sight (not sure if that's an issue for a 4mo) but keep on patting/rocking her tummy until she was completely asleep. It took heaps and heaps of time and energy but we eventually got there, gradually putting her to bed more and more awake.

It's really tough ay. Hope your boy settles soon.

Oh and approaching 6 months he will get to a "separation anxiety" phase - that is, he sees you go and he thinks you've gone forever! Patience and playing peek-a-boo seem to be the only things that help this. But if you think he's entering this phase, don't worry too much about extra cuddles because it will pass.

Oh Dear...Blake was like that too. Would get in such a state that he would start hyperventilating.......soooooooo it was a bit of a hard road and its by no means perfect but funly enough the more sleep he starts to have the more he will settle down into knowing that cot is peaceful and sleep time...

Unfortunately ......unless you want to rock him or feed him the only way to do it...is to let him have a wee cry.... I dont want to get into a debate cause lots of people have very different views but I have done it with both mine and its great as Paige who sleeps like a log - never have had a problem with bedtime and Blake is getting there too! Its horrible and we hate it but it does work. Remember the other thing is little babies can not handle being up too long ie no longer than hour and a half and back to bed when happy. Usually should drop off.