Shattered

Tuesday was possibly one of the toughest days of my life. We had to make the decision to put our little cat to sleep. I know that there are people out there that will think its just a pet, but for us he really was one of our babies for the last 14 years.

He had been sick for a long time, and we probably knew that we would have to make a decision sooner or later, but it didnt make it any easier. I feel really empty and am pretty devastated, feel a bit like I am auto-pilot each day and am emotionally exhausted. Poor DH is heartbroken too, and we are both struggling to make it through each day at work, only to come home and find that we both sub-consciously look for him to feed him - he normally greets us at the car howling his head off to be fed, so its a bit strange him not being there.

I have never lost someone  I love (I am very lucky to have parents / granparents still around) and have never really had to deal with greif in any way, so feel like I dont know whether I am normal, or just being a drama queen or what...

Know it will get better - but at the moment its pretty sucky.

Oh no Simsam, it's perfectly normal

It's so hard to lose 'someone' you love, and our pets are so much a part of our family. I always said to DH that if any of our animals was hurt badly, or sick, we'd let them go ...but I tell you, last year when our cat Jazz was hit by a car, I threw my credit card at the vet and told him to do whatever it took!! (She's perfectly fine these days, and thankfully, avoids cars a bit more than she used to). We love them to pieces our animals.

DH and I had a budgie, Monty, and he was so cool. We'd leave the radio on for him during the day, and by the time we came home at night, he was off repeating what he'd listened to during the day ...and if we had people over, he was always chipping in on the conversation. He was hilarious, and just such a cool bird.

Even DH shed a tear when he died The house seemed so quiet and empty after he was gone too. It was horrible.

I'm so sorry Simsam

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You are totally normal, we had to get our beloved tess (dog) Put down on boxing day a few years ago and we bawled like babies at the vets, and for many days afterwards.

Pets are so much like children and i can understand where you are coming from.

Thinking of you, I'm so sorry you had to go through it.

Hon, this is an awful thing to have to go through. Losing a cat for many people is losing a member of their family. I still get upset over the loss of my darlings, and one of them was over 4 years ago.

Big hugs, it does get a little easier every day.

Big hugs Sam! That is the exact reason I don't do pets - I can't handle losing them We hat a cat for 15 years and eventually had to put her down and it was absolutely devastating.
Thinking of you.

Oh Simsam, It totally feel for you. That was your bubs with the heart problem wasnt it???? My boy has now gone on to more medication and has good days and bad days....he's only 7 but somehow I dont think he'll see 14 and I know I will be devastated then.

Big hugs to you from me and both my furbabies.

thinking of you big hugs