Help/advice needed please!?

there is something you can give to help with wind, your midwife should be able to tell yout he name of it.

anotehr way to help it could be to feed him while he's upright (can be done b/feeding aswell jsut a little more awkward), and wind him frequently so feed for shorter periods and winding him lots during the feed, that could also be causing him to be hard to settle to sleep.
tummy time can also help bring up wind, or holding him slightly above the floor face down (they both worked real well with JAmes when he's not cooperating in the wind department).

hope he starts to settle soon for you,

I feed Daniel on an angle and it helps him with wind and crying. At home I just have a pillow under his head end and it keeps him up by my boob which is great. It's kinda like hes sitting.

Another thing we have just found and it's great is a baby sleep cd that I got from The Sleep Store online. It's great for settling and he's learning when that sound is on it means sleep time and we have only had it for 2 days and already notice the difference with it.

I personally have tried to leave my baby cry off to sleep and I found it so stressful to listen to her cry and she got distressed as well from crying. The intention/aim though is to teach them to fall asleep on their own. Recognising the tired signs is one of the keys as discussed in this site. When the baby is tired, give him some cuddles and put him in bed if he is calm. He also needs some time to understand that he is expected to sleep when in bed. No doubt it needs a lot of hard work and patience. Good luck!

i agree at 2 weeks old I would not be using the cry it out (CIO) method, they are too young and really need to be feeding as much as they want to (demand feeding) this doesn't mean that your boy is constantly connected to your breast, i would time it (providing your baby has had enough to feed).

Grip water was always good for my eldest (the only one who had a hard time bring wind up) it did the trick. I have heard even a bit of water after feeding - but this would be in an older child (3 months on)

It is very stressful with a newborn and I am presuming this is your first child so worrying for you. It is perfectly normal for a child especially at night to be unsettled, it does pass. If you want your baby to learn to go to sleep by himself, perhaps gentle rocking - while lying in the bassinette/cot. I also used a bouncer to rock my duaghter to sleep before putting her to bed, i was still there but she didn't get cuddled.. then moved onto putting her in her bassinette when she was more settled into a routine. worked a treat for me. with Rhyley I would wait till he was almost asleep till i put him in bed and he just snuggled in and went to sleep.

Do you wrap your baby? This also helps.

Also what do you mean by unsettled? Is he cluster feeding etc...??

wow, thank you for all your replies, that has left me with a lot of ideas. i have bought some gripe water to try and will bare the cluster feeding in mind and try to keep him well topped up with milk at nite! and i will try sitting him more upright.

to answer a few q's; yes he does get wrapped to sleep, he seems to like that comfort.

he is settled throughout the day and sleeps much beta-often for longer periods than at nite to be honest (gives me chance to catch up!) from about 5pm onwards is wen the crying and not wanting to sleep starts.

he gets so worked up at times that he wont even feed even tho you can tell he really wants to.

i wont be around for the aug meet up as we are visiting all the family in the UK but i'll look out for the sept one.

thanks again!!!

The other thing to bear in mind is that most children seem to have an unsettled period called either the witching hour or the arsnic hour (depends on who you talk to - different names, same thing!). This is, despite the name, a differing length of time where the child is really grumpy and unsettled, and nothing satisfies them. My older son (2) has his from 4:30pm until around 6pm, and my younger son (8 months) has his from 7pm until 8:30pm unless he falls asleep first.

Good luck! It's been my experience that at when my children reach about 6 weeks old, everything suddenly seems to make sense.

I left Joey to cry for 10 minutes max from birth. He always fell asleep within the 10 minutes though. I knew he was dry, fed and tired. He is now a very happy, settled almost 2 year old. I think you have to know for yourself if you think it's the right thing to do.