Frustrated

You are not doing anything wrong at all! I have never had a routine up until my girl was 6 months old and even then it goes haywire! I found every day is different!

Also I never put her down awake she was always asleep after her feed when I put her down and sometimes I couldn't get her burps out either, I found if she stirred or got upset not long after I put her down it more often than not meant she had wind, then I picked her up and found the burps came out (sometimes its easier if they have been on their backs for a bit)
Sounds like your baby is doing perfectly fine! You probably have a very good milk supply and don't need to feed both sides - I hardly feed both sides.

just remember - mother knows best! try to brush off everything all these do gooders say!

I'm with all the other ladies. You're doing well and he's gaining weight so that's fantastic. The first 3 months are technically the 4th trimester as there's so much more growing and developing to go, so sleeping, feeding and cuddles is all that's needed, for both mum and bub. Apparently they don't create "bad" habits until 4 months, so if feeding to sleep is working or just happening, good for you. It's what your baby needs.

Huh, a routine at 3 weeks...who are these people that are asking you? Couldn't be bothered to read the replies but I am sure that most have been along the lines of don't worry routine will come later (maybe a lot later, we still don't have one hahahahaha).

Seriously, 3 weeks is waaaaaaay to early to think you need a routine.

Your doing a great job hun. Keep doing what your doing.

I agree with everyone and Mels first post completely. Forget the routine for now and just go with the flow. We followed feed play sleep but it was never to the clock, it was/is always on Jacksons demand. He will put himself into a routine.
Hang in there hun, your doing great!

Tyler is nearly one and still doesn't have a proper routine ,but he gets fed, he gets sleep and hes happy and healthy .
It works for us and you have to do what works for you .
Don't put pressure on yourself to "get it right " there is no "right way " , babies don't come with an instruction manual , and anyone that tells you what you should be doing, should produce the manual they are quoting from .

Your doing a great job , try and ignore the "well meaning " advice

Cheryl hun, I totally agree with all the others.
We dont have a 'routine' we just do what Lilla wants, and shes happy and content (apart from her cold she has atm )
You dont need to worry about Noah, so long as he is happy and healthy then you dont need to worry about him not having a 'routine'.
Your doing a great job with him, so keep it up, and dont worry at all what others say you (and Noah) should and shouldnt be doing

Thanks everyone..it's so reassuring to know it's not the be all and end all not having a routine.

I am feeling so much happier and relaxed now that I'm just going with the flow

Thanks again