Specialist Appt

Hiya, I guess I kind of belong in here at the moment, but then, I really don't know. I had a specialist appt today, and these were the results (sorry, cut and pasted from TTC thread)....

My specialist appt was...hrmm. Disheartening. I am an extraordinarily high risk for miscarriage, both first and second trimester. I got full bloods done, DF has to have some done, and I have to go back next week and have some more, and then more the week after, as well as an ultrasound as I may have a funny shaped uterus. I have clubbed fallopian tubes, my endo is high grade, my cervix increases the risk of second trimester miscarriage, my laparoscopy last year wasn't done properly....do I go on? It's highly likely I have to have another laparoscopy to remove my endo, and I have to get a stitch put into my cervix to try to reduce the risk of second tri m/c. Put simply, from the second I get a BFP I will be under a high risk team with numerous blood tests and scans and even then there's no telling. I've been put on 5mg of folic acid (the recommended dose is 0.8mg for people TTC and pg) and will probably have to start low dose aspirin soon also. So all in all, not a great result because I'm so high risk there's sooooo many things that can go wrong. The lady who took my blood was astounded - my tests meant that she took more blood out of me at one time than she ever has to a person before.

Put simply, our best options for a successful pregnancy are surrogacy or adoption. So all in all, very very very gutting. Suffice it to say, I want lots of cuddles tonight and I'm not cooking.

Fingers crossed we win something in Lotto this weekend, so we can get the laparoscopy done privately instead of having to wait on the public list as well

I don't seem to have a problem with getting pg, I have a big problem with getting them to stick. I dunno, I'm just really gutted at the moment.

No, the Dr didn't sound thrilled either. The report that followed the surgery was seriously lacking in detail, she needs to know if they did a dye as from the notes it "seems" that my fallopian tubes were actually blocked, as well as being clubbed, but all they did was have a look, write a couple of sentences of notes and then close me back up.

It makes you feel so useless

Lots of Kate!

Wow, what a hard day you must've had!
Fingers crossed you get your little miracle from your next BFP

I'm sorry Kate, what horrible news for you. I hope you get some serious looking after this weekend.

Kate, from what you've said it seems to me it was pretty premature to say that your best chance for children is surrogacy or adoption. It sounds like most of your blood tests aren't even back yet (apparently they always take heaps when investigating recurrent mc cos there's so many different possible causes). Also from what I've heard endo generally causes problems with getting pregnant but not with recurrent mc - so the good news is the endo isn't stopping you from getting pg. I'm guessing the issue with your fallopian tubes is that it makes you at higher risk of having an ectopic? so obviously that is pretty stressful along with having a weak cervix. However, I would have thought that although this makes you high risk, you would still have a good chance of carrying a pregnancy to term if you have the cerclage.

So sorry things are so stressful for you right now - I know how crappy it is to have repeated losses and right now I am feeling really afraid that I am never going to be able to have a live birth but I do beleive there is hope for both of us.

I totally know what you mean about wondering how many losses you can go through. This is an issue for me right now too. And it really sux that things can't be easier. I can understand how finding multiple problems can be disheartening. I wish you the best for getting your much deserved child however that may be.

aaawww, minik8e that is awful and I don't kno what to say. I know what you mean about pg woman everywhere.