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Bubie 
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 10:34am |
Ds is nearly 9 months old and ive moved as much stuff out of the road that he cant touch, but he is still touching things he shouldnt be, I say NO with a very firm tone but sometimes he just dosnt listen, i know he is only young, so itl take abit of learning, but when my mum is here and she say's no he listens right away lol, just wondering how you taught your baby not to touch things... 
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1st_Time_Preggies
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 10:48am |
Its frustrating isn't it? I'm pretty sure my DS 11 months KNOWS what I mean when I say no, but then gives this CHEEKY as grin and goes and touches it anyway. I then take him away from it and try to distract but it immediately results in tears. I guess it is just a matter of time before they finally listen? I hope? 
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 11:00am |
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Just moved the baby away, said Not for Milla, and gave her something else to play with to distract her, but yeah as they get older gets much easier
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 11:09am |
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I do the OI! then NO, then pick upp and put somewhere else with toys shes allowed to play with.
She actually KNOWS what I mean as sometimes she does listen, but the majority of the time she gives us a BIG cheeky grin and continues on with it....
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 12:54pm |
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It takes them along time to learn impulse control, they know they souldn't do something but they can't control themselve to stop doing it.
Distraction is usually the best way I think
The reason he listens when your Mum says No is because he doesn't know what her boundaries are so he is more cautious. He knows what your boundaries are and when/if/how to step over the line or not
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 1:24pm |
This article is one I will be trying to remember. :)
Doesn't really help your situation, bit I think it's a good read :)
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 2:23pm |
Good link Zaylah, I read that the other day. Did you get it off peaceful parenting?
I say Oi, then if that doesnt work I say NO and pick DD up and move her away to play somewhere else. We are lucky in the sense the only bad thing in our living room is the fireplace- which we are getting a guard for. But she always seems to find paper..... 
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 2:55pm |
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They understand but don't have the inclination to put your wants over theirs so will do it anyway. It's good to say it for important things but don't expect them to actually control themselves. But that way you are teaching them what no means.
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Posted: 26 January 2011 at 7:27pm |
It's quite frustrating lol, but he does listen sometimes which i guess is better then not at all lol, guess ill just have to keep pursuing on with what im doing
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Posted: 27 January 2011 at 1:32pm |
lol short answer? You don't!!!
YOU will eventually "learn" to move stuff...yes it sucks, i always said "my baby isn't going to touch stuff, they will just have to learn" - then I actually had kids and discoverred the reality isn't quite like that. After they are about 3 you can live normally again...
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Posted: 27 January 2011 at 1:49pm |
 fattartsrock wrote:
i always said "my baby isn't going to touch stuff, they will just have to learn" - then I actually had kids and discoverred the reality isn't quite like that. |
Ha ha ha, me too!!
If you can't move the item/s, then yeah, be watchful of him and consistent with saying 'No / not for you'. He will learn ... one day!
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Posted: 27 January 2011 at 9:43pm |
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Zaylah that article is great, thanks for sharing!
I am in the middle of reading Elizabeth Pantley's "No Cry Discipline Solution". Really great stuff along the same sort of lines as that article. Must find the Sears' Good Behaviour Book too!
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