Dont know if i should be moaning but....

I need to get it out!! Gah this situation is so stupid!

Now this is going to be long and lengthy so be warned LOL!

So DP and i have been together for 1year and a half now and since the start there have been issues with his friends. Friend A and Friend B. The thing is that before meeting DP i hooked up with Friend A a couple of times nothing serious and neither of us wanted anything serious from each other. In the 2 months after Friend A and i stopped "hooking up" Friend B and i used to hang out quite often too, and Friend A, B and DP were pretty inseperable as they have been for years. DP started texting me and we hung out and things eventuated pretty quickly into a relationship after a couple of weeks. We didnt tell anyone at first because we wanted to work out where it was going before we included anyone else in it. Unfortunately we got sprung together before we could tell anyone. So DP had a big chat to Friend A about it and he eventually got over it, he would talk to me and be friendly to me as long as Friend B wasnt around.

Friend B is the big issue! He still is not over it, and really he has no reason not to be over it.. i havent done anything to him, except in DPs words made DP happier than he has ever been before. So a few months ago DP was texting Friend B because Friend B wanted to hang out but couldnt make his mind up and said not to worry about it so DP rented a movie with me and we were going to watch. Then Friend B text saying they wanted to meet for a drink and after that would go hang at his place. So DP said he would go for the drink but he couldnt break his promise to me as that wasnt fair. The text that came back was aimed at me because he thought i had text the text (because DP would normally not stand up to him) saying something about me shutting the F up fat B$%%h. So obviously when i read this i was upset. That night DP went round had a huge chat with Friend B and told him that i was now part of his life and had no intention of stopping them from hanging out, infact i would normally tell DP to go to their place, they then arranged that on Thursday nights DP would come round and hang out, but that Friend B had to realise i was a part of his life and be civil to me at least (many other times he had been in our house and ignored me completely or made rude jokes)

So DP now goes there Thursday nights and tells me that if he ever mentions my name they just go silent or change the subject. I figured its just boys being boys whatever, then a couple of weeks ago we are going into indoor as he is coming out and he sees us and blatantly ignores us. Not just me but DP aswell. So i turn around to DP and say this is ridiculous its been over a year and as long as he can live in a world where i dont exist (ie thursday nights) then hes happy and you condone his behaviour by allowing him to pretend like i dont exist.

K might seem super harsh but now im totally fed up, in the past year i have tried everything i can to get Friend B back on side, and i mean everything including telling DP to go around 2 days after my M/C because it was a Thurs. (which they never knew about because they wouldnt care so DP had no friends to talk to about) and now i am so over it, DP still just jumps and goes whenever this Friend asks him to, i know he wont say anything about his behaviour and they will all just go on living in a world where i dont exist. DP has just told me he is going around there tonight after getting halfway there last night and being texted by Friend B saying not to worry about it. DP told me a couple of weeks ago he wasnt gunna make the effort anymore (which he is the one to do every week not Friend B) and now hes going round there.

I know this ended up being really long and noone will probably read it but im so fed up with this situation... i am not one of those Partners you hear about that doesnt let their partner hang with his friends (AT ALL) but im starting to feel maybe i need to put my foot down. It hurts me knowing hes going to hang with these people who pretend im not a part of his life! He cant even tell them that we are TTC they wouldnt get it. Sorry still ranting... will stop now.... rant over (for now)

Thanks Aquarius that helps alot the silliest thing about this situation is that its not even the friend i was seeing before DP that is the problem!!! GAH!

wow, what are they, 12 . They all just need to grow up a bit and get over it. It sounds like BH 90210 or something!!

and rant away, it sounds much more interesting than my friday night .

Lol it is like they are 12 huh!! thats what ive said a million times before lol!! The thing with these boys is they have never had anything to do with girls before me and another couple of girls came onto the scene and the other two just live this life like they are 12 lol! DP and i had a big chat about it tonight and hes being a lot stronger he really is pretty amazing and i feel bad coz hes tried everything he can but i dont want him to give up the friendship because at the moment i dont have a lot of friends and i dont want him to have that its the worst. They are pretty decent to him with everything else its just me. I definately felt better after a rant!!

I read it , its only friday night after all nothing else to do ...haha

Id be pretty miffed too, and i must say ,Friend B, (should be "Friend" ) doesnt actually seem to care much about your DP, id have thought a real friend would be happy if their friend was happy , hes acting like a silly little kid at school .
You and DP are planning a future, sounds like his relationship with them , is virtually gone , hes just feeling some kind of loyalty to them .
He shouldn't be making such an effort , they , esp friend B , doesn't sound worth it .